Year help: My husband wants out. - Help.com

I don’t know. Maybe there’s nothing you CAN do, but have yopu tried asking him to seek marriage counseling with you?

No. As it stands right now, he just wants to leave. He feels trapped. He wants freedom. I just don’t understand why was he almost forcing me to marry him. He has been divorced a few times already. Is it his trend? He gets his woman and then dumps her? Help me please…..

Was the hell you two went through to get together involving splitting him up with a partner?

Have you asked him whats the deal? We cant read his mind for you and as hard as it is you will only find closure or solutions from him. Im really realyl sorry for your loss, that is awful.

Or splitting you up with a partner?

talk to him ask y he wants out and see if its anything you can fix

No, nothing like that Chameleon. He had an abusive marriage before and he divorced her before we even met. I was never married before and at the time we met I had no partners either. He promised me heaven and paradise before we lived together. I think he just simply got bored of the idea of being married. I see him staring at other women when we are together, checking them out from head to toe right in front of me, even turning his head when he sees two bouncing boobs…he just can’t help it and it really makes me feel bad. He also flirts with other women on the internet.

Obviously he didn’t make much of a commitment, so just let him go.

Oh god I’m so sorry Anon.
Maybe you should look at all this as a blessing that you found out what a dog he is early in the marriage and not after years and kids and more history together.
Try to be glad to be rid of him, accept the divorce wholeheartedly and set yourself free for a good man.

if you’re surprised by men looking at boobs i believe you need to get some insight into the male brain (no offense). Its very easy to say that a man just “isnt good enough”, But have you honestly made an effort to keep him happy sexually and emotionally? I think its worth trying to make any marriage work. So make sure you take a look at yourself before judging him as “no good”.

The time he told me he wants me for his wife, he was an absolute jewel. He gave me presents, flowers, I was number one in his life. Yes, dmaga, I made all possible efforts to make him happy. He even said so he never had a woman like I am sexually, and we are, or I should say were, emotional partners. He even said so that he loves me because I fulfill all of his desires…….yet, he behaves this way. He makes me very insecure. I am not judging him but to answer to your question dmaga, it is actually HIM who does not make any effort anymore to keep me sexually and emotionally happy.

It’s very odd that he’s changed his mind Anon, but only he can know why he did - if he even knows. He may have problems that you’re both unaware of.

Yes, he is not working right now and I am the ‘breadwinner’ so to speak.

What is he THINKING??

I have to go now, he just got back home. I will return later. Thank you all for taking time to respond. I will return very soon.

Ok talk to you later Anon.

I would suggest couples therapy but seems like he’s not really willing to work on your marriage. From what i understand he’s been through several divorces and is about to go through another one. sounds like a man that doesn’t have his shi7 together. Finding a life partner is not an easy task, especially in todays world, but settling for below average is not the answer either. Get yourself a fresh start and dumb this loser. make this a learning experience.