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ummm why did you harm yourself when you came home?? i have heard it is addictive.

y do u tend to harm urself?? is dere somethng in you which u dont like?

It’s just me! My parents were ignoring me a bit, acting like I didn’t really matter and it just got to me. It had been almost a month since I last harmed too. Why do I always do this?

quitting anything is about you. you have to make the commitment to stop if you want to. when you want to hurt yourself, you need to stop and think if possible. breathe. breathing can calm you down tremendously. breathe in your nose and out your mouth. it doesnt matter if you are breathing really fast or not, you will slow down eventually. you could talk to your parents, but im assuming its hard. i dont know, with more information, i could try to give more specific advice….

I’ve been like this for ages, sometimes it’s just for the control. So much of my life is out of my hands at the minute, and the decisions I can make never seem to please my parents and I don’t know what I can do.

being in control is a major reason people start cutting, so ive heard. the one part of your life you can control shouldnt be whether or not you hurt yourself. it doesnt make any sense. talking to your parents might be a good idea. some things you do wont please them, but they will get over it. how old are you? if you are between 14-18 your parents should realize that you need to start making your own choices and fix the problems you have for yourself. in other words, be more independent..

I’m 16. I’m trying to be more independent, I’m getting a job so I can buy my own things, I buy my own things now. But I’m always told to stop or I’ll run out of money, but it’s MY money but they won’t let me use it and they threaten to take away my card so I can’t use it.

i know what you mean, im often told to not spend my money, even though i earned it. ummmm…. ok, you want control. right now, you’re not in control, of yourself or your life. control yourself first, by being in control of yourself enough to stop cutting. once you do that im sure you’ll feel great. after you have broken your addiction, work on convincing your parents to give you more freedom..

I know I’ve got to stop, the fact is I don’t know how.

for me, i dont know how you would stop, ive only come close to cutting. its an addiction and you need to find it in yourself to stop a behavior that you dont like that is giving you scars and not solving anything.

Well, I’ve made it easier to hide to start off with because I make sure I don’t leave scars.

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Well, I’ve made it easier to hide to start off with because I make sure I don’t leave scars.

thats not the point, even if you dont leave scars, its addictive. personally, i cant afford to be addicted to things, and my life is too complicated to be addicted to something. but i dont know about you….

I think my life is going to start to get very busy, so maybe I won’t have time to be addicted to anything?

Anonymous wrote:
I think my life is going to start to get very busy, so maybe I won’t have time to be addicted to anything?

exactly. an addiction will just drag you down, i think. its hard for me to i guess tell you the answer here because i never cut or got over a strong addiction. but i can assume that it will only get in the way of the things you want to accomplish. you said you want to be in control, so you cut. but to really be in control, you would be able to stop. thats more control than anything, being able to stop an addiction….