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My boyfriend is depressed.

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. For the past 6 months or so he has changed. I have always know that he is a little moody and sad, but it has gotten worse. It has started afffecting me to the point that I feel depressed and sad and crazy most of the time. He started pushing me away and I have ended up cheating on him a few times (he knows about two of them) to prove to myself that he loves me. He has always stuck by me, but I don’t feel like he loves me. I dont know why he stays with me other than that I am all that he has. Last week he told me that he has been suicial since elementary school and doesn’t think anyone in the world has ever cared about him. I have been trying and trying to get him to agree to talk to someone (a lot of this stems from his relationship with his family), but I have been unsuccessful. I don’t think he is ready to do that.
I don’t want to leave him b/c I love and care for him a lot, but it is so hard to love someone who drains the life out of me. Has anyone been in this situation? Is there any hope?

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dani4liverpoo offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

first off, if u cheat on him hes gonna feel like crap, so dont. ever.
and secondly i had severe depression and i went to the doctor eventualy and he got me on pro-zac which is the best thing i’ve ever done its changed my whole life but he NEEDs to see a doctor whether he wants to or not, if i hadnt i wouldnt be here right now.
good luck x

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Barbyman online Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 30 #
Liston, 02, AU | 3 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

How can you cheat with someone else .No wonder Aids is spreading. a Valium a Day keeps depression away….

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frogs_rock0 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

I have been in this situation before…..
It is very depressing.
The reason why he is not leaving you is because
1. He loves you 2 much.
2. He is probably afraid of losing you and that his depression
will probably increase if you are not there for him.
and 3. He wants 2 know that someone is there for him
and is trying to help him out of this situation.

think about this and good luck :)

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pretty_polly200 offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (34 minutes after post)

well ive had that situation and the cheating and stuff. well my bf had gone to a phsyco to get help and for you to get to him the best thing is HONESTY. really…just dont annoy just get closer..you are the only one hes got and he doesnt want to lose you so u just need to make a little effort to show him that u r there and that u carq and tht u are ready to help at any moment. he has to rely on you then. and he loves you…he does…i am sure. well i wish u all the best…

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schneewittchen offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (55 minutes after post)

1. you have to talk to somebody who is professionally skilled with suicidal persons.
2. you have to make clear for yourself, if you really love him as a man and nnot a friend, and not that you stick with him just because you are afraid thatt he will commit suicide.depressive people can be very demanding.
however the current situation seem not to be healthy for you both, and du e to his depression you may seem the only person to be able to take decisions.
this does not mean that i advise to leave him not at all, just make up what you want independent of his desires,and than take over the responsibility to help him either as a bofriend or a friend.–depending on your true feelings. you are not leaving him, but acrificing yourself because you are afraid to hurt him is not love, not from his site and not from your site. if you love him as a man, you will still need professional assitance..depression in a severe disease not only attacking the personitself, but also other close friends…

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