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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a month but we’re both still very young.

Now he’s leaving me voicemails the day after we went out crying because he misses me so much. He spends all his time texting me and spends all his money on me, but I thik he’s getting obsessed. He send texts saying things like “remember even if the Earth turns to freezing stone, and the sun goes out and the light of the moon is the only thing we have left to live by I will still love you”. I’ve read enough magazines to know that the general problem is keeping a guy sweet and interested. What’s wrong?

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Chickens offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 42 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 minute after post)

There is a problem, i can say that hmmmm

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F.anjel offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

How old are both of you? What is he like with his friends? What is his family like?

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Rick Fonte offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

I’d be careful with him. People who exhibit this kind of behavior often have some underlying insecurity or previous emotional trauma. Things like losing a parent, being abused, being constantly rejected, often cause this kind of thing. Talk to him, have a real conversation and see whats going on. If its something like this, suggest limiting the time you spend together, or hanging out in larger groups.

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Mat6974 offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (20 hours, 37 minutes after post)

A fear of abandonment is usually associated with an abusive past. Don’t push him away just because of his own personal fear of rejection, because your rejection will stimulate in him feelings of inadequacy, which will lead to a more severe struggle within himself to win your affection. Communication is the key to situations like this ask him about his feelings and then compare them to your own openly. Don’t make him feel shunned, or be cold to him, but don’t be afraid to show your own emotions freely. What are relationships for?

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