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Feeling upset/lost/frustrated/scared/nervous/depressed/apathetic/hopeless for various reasons.

1. Going to college and absolutely not ready to leave home. I love my home and I do not adjust as easily as others. I am also not the most social, cool person, despite an easy going personality. I try. But when it comes to making a good impression, I am not always as successful as most (girls, for example, have been somewhat of a failure for me). So because of my fear of change and inability to thrive socially as well as others, college scares the **** out of me.

2. Feel alone/left out/hopeless as everyone my age partakes in rebellious, unhealthy activities (I don’t drink to get drunk, though I will a little socially, and care for my health and therefore refuse to smoke in any form) - I watch friends that I really care about choosing to go down the wrong paths - drinking until they pass out, smoking anything thats flammable, doing drugs because they have nothing better to do. I am hurt to see them stoop to that level because I know they are capable of better. I have always had faith in them but they continuously challenge that faith. Everyone my age is taking on this nature and I feel completely isolated and upset because of it.

3. Sleep disorder that forced me to get a single room in college. This special circumstance causes me to be in a building with older students. As a result, since I am already really nervous about college and making friends, it doesn’t help that the people on my floor are not going to be as eager to make friends as I am since they have already been at the school for a while.

4. I have a very independent personality as I can sometimes find enjoyment in things on my own, while most of my friends heavily depend on being around other people. I often opt to stay home and not attend every single social event (though I would not consider myself to be anti-social by any means), and my friends take it personally and think I don’t like them and try to make me feel bad about it. They don’t understand that my personality is simply different than there’s.

5. Dog is sick in the hospital.

So basically, the adjectives I listed above to begin my rant are a result of feeling unable to escape. At home, I’m upset about my dog and being smothered by my friends through endless phone calls and text messages to “get the hell out” and join whatever they’re doing. Outside from home, I have all the other friend problems that I described above in regards to the choices they make and how it makes me feel. And finally, with college starting in about a week, where most people are eager to make a new start, I feel failure lurking. No matter where I am and when it is (at home, outside, in college), I have ill feelings.

For whomever was actually nice enough to read this entire long winded rant, I thank you. And now I beg for some advice for I feel desperate.

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F.anjel 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

I think,

1) That’s a part of growing up; leaving home. And at least, be thankful that you have a home to go back to, whenever you want, the doors are always open and welcoming. Easy going personalities are easy to work with, really, so don’t try to be something/one else you’re not. A good impression is good, sure, but don’t get tied up with what others think of you; you really can’t please the crowd. And hey, just get out there even if you’re scared, that ability to do what you’re scared of doing makes people admire you, and you can take pride in yourself, too.

2) Being the mature one in your social group can be hard, yeah. Since it really bothers you, whenever they buy you to go out just tell them you’re not fond of that particular type of activity? You’re gonna have to tread carefully when being honest, though.

3) Man, that sucks. Think you can work it up to get to know your neighbours in the building? Just a simple smile and hi, i’ve moved in next door! Nice to meet you, what’s your name, kinda thing?

4) Independance is great, yeah, but what you’re doing is almost borderline anti-social, too =o Maybe say you’re busy, you’re doing something you really enjoy at the moment, when they ask? And you can’t exclude yourself from social activities for long, you know that :P

5) Sorry to hear =( How is he/she?

Hey, take it as a compliment that your friends keep asking you to go out with them, you must be popular =) Or at least, they find your company enjoyable, hehe

leenoy2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (20 hours, 19 minutes after post)

i must say that i can completely relate and understand i’m going to be starting college too in a few wks and am so nervous about making new friends..i’ll still be living at home though..and i’m also the same type where i’m independent especially b/c most of the time i’m busy w/ either hw, working, exercising, family problems, too tired to functioness.. although i have friends sometimes they mistake me being busy for being mad at them or something…as far as giving u advice…i don’t know how good my advice will be but my basic plan is to incorporate my friends in things i have to do anyway by having study groups together or exercising together

when it comes to the whole drinking thing i am exactly the same my friends would all go smoke hookah together or want to do weed and i always always refuse i think it’s disgusting, immature, n pointless

so overall after reading this and seeing how much i can relate to what ur feeling i have to say i think it’s normal being this irritable and nervous/depressed before college i keep feeling anxious/nervous/depressed/upset over this whole college thing..

and i seriously miss my friends who have basically all moved for college leaving me here alone on a saturday night……it’s funny u can become lonely so fast..i thought i would enjoy being lonely and having time to just be at home but be happy u r leaving home u get to turn ur back on family problems and live surrounded by ppl who r ur age and who will understand u

just try to be positive..i know it is hard and we will have to be strong…it is what it is

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jd905 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (22 hours, 24 minutes after post)

leenoy, its nice to see theres more than one :)

thanks for the advice and i offer you the same positive wishes

if you ever want/need some advice in return i would be more than happy to help

leenoyhend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 day, 9 hours after post)

awww thanks..i kind of have my moods w/ it…i’ve kind of made exercising my stress outlet…u should try it..go to the gym for an hr w/ ur ipod and u will feel so much better afterwards….

here’s is a list of my probs:

1. i keep lashing out on my dad/mom/sisters and then i feel so guilty about it afterwards.

2. i’m obsessed w/ weight loss..i’m def not anorexic i would never starve myself but i kinda let myself become obsessed about it when all i want to do is lose like 5 lbs..it’s ridic i know…it makes me feel shallow and brainless

3. i’m never really satisfied w/ myself so i feel like what’s the pt. even if i reach a goal i know that i still won’t be happy and then i’ll just move on to the next thing to make my life revolve around

4. i gossip too much and then feel guilty about it

thanks for reading this ****

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wrig87 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (2 weeks, 3 days after post)

Don’t worry just be yourself, and know yourself and thats the best you can do you will pick up the friends you want to keep along the way. Do everything that YOU want to do but don’t be too arsey with the people that choose different to you. You’ll be fine-by the way it’s much easier to give advice rather than take it-I hope thats ok for you. :)

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