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lone wolf is definitely better than loner.

its a good thing i find. relying on yourself rather than people who will inevitably let you down.

wow sheroo that was kinda pessimistic being a “loner” usually means you don’t have friends you chill with all the time but you can get along with most anyone. You don’t have a specific demographic that likes you and therefor you should be able to become close with anyone if you allow yourself to… everyone needs friends! Thats just a fact when you get lonely you get depressed and depression isn’t something you want to get into.

I revel in it, but then I have a warped sense of reality.

ok i suppose that works too!

jai_reni wrote:
wow sheroo that was kinda pessimistic being a “loner” usually means you don’t have friends you chill with all the time but you can get along with most anyone. You don’t have a specific demographic that likes you and therefor you should be able to become close with anyone if you allow yourself to… everyone needs friends! Thats just a fact when you get lonely you get depressed and depression isn’t something you want to get into.

how was my response pessimistic?
sorry, i guess i dont have a lot of faith in the people around me. maybe one day, but not yet.

You don’t have to trust everyone but there has to be someone…

of course i trust some people. but i am considered a loner. i like to do everything in my own time, and i hate relying on people.
ive just been let down a hell of a lot i guess

jai_reni wrote:
You don’t have to trust everyone but there has to be someone…

I haven’t found one yet.

Tbh, I think Sherooo’s reply wasn’t pessimistic but realistic. In life there is only one person who you can truly rely on and that person is yourself.

However, I don’t believe in cutting out friends all together and I try to take the risks in making friends. If I do get let down, I just try to take it and not let it bother me. I think the reason I am like this is due to past experiences. I don’t want to rely on friends but I would like to make friends.

To answer the posters question, a loner/lone wolf is someone who doesn’t really spend much time with other people and spends a lot of their time alone. I personally wouldn’t be offended but I wouldn’t treat it as a compliment. Other people may be offended.

id say a loner means you spend more than the ‘usual’ time alone, or without your friends around you, id say it was a bad name to be called, but not always a bad thing to be. Its good to enjoy your own company, these people will one day realise that we are all inevitably alone in this world.
id say ‘lone wolf’ wasnt so good, they live in ‘packs’/groups, so to be a ‘lone wolf’ would be a bad situation…its the same meaning as ‘loner’ tho….x

its a compliment…who wants to be part of the mess like everybody else….

i agree with elysium on this one, cheers dude :)

and well said aeolian!

At the end of the day, what everyone says is very true, i.e. dont give a **** bout wot ppl think/say, we are the only person we can rely on…blah…blah…blah…
but this person is asking this question because it concerns them….why? beause it must have an element of truth. Everyone wants to be accepted…its a fact of humanity, we also work in groups..thats why we are naturakky sociable, and exactly why this person i offended by the name calling….
…all i say is go out there, dont worry what people will think of you, but talk, socialise and find people that like YOU… so long as you dont worry about peoples’ opinions…then only you will matter. Ofc we are all alone…but who honestly wants to spend time alone? get out there!!! x

I wouldn’t mind, because it’s more or less true that I am a loner. I don’t see it as a bad word, more like a statement - not a judgement.

They say that human beings are social creatures that need to interact with each other to survive, but the way I see it, you can live pretty good all by yourself, sometimes you have no choice and have nobody in life to count on so you have to find someway to survive in this world on your own.

Neutra wrote:
They say that human beings are social creatures that need to interact with each other to survive, but the way I see it, you can live pretty good all by yourself, sometimes you have no choice and have nobody in life to count on so you have to find someway to survive in this world on your own.

I totally agree with you. when you boil life down to an absolute minimum, all that’s required to survive is food & shelter.