life help: hi i just lost an year in college ..don know wat to do ,ifeel - Help.com

what’s going on?

what’s engg? and why do you say that you’ll lose all your friends?

try just taking other classes your interested in and maybe you’ll find a different subject you can enjoy. just because you failed a subject doesnt mean you can’t pass it later. just retake it again. at least you’ll no what to expect and then you can prepare yourself better.

You sound convinced that just because you’re not in the same classes as your friends, they’ll just ditch you. I imagine computer engineering is a pretty time intensive course, but i’m sure that being students you’ll still all have copious amounts of free time in which to hang out, go drinking or whatever you do at the moment. If your friends are just going to abandon you then they’re not really any kind of friends anyway - your true friends will be the ones you still see, and i’m sure there’ll be plenty of them, so don’t worry :)

just enjoy the time with the rest of college. once your done all that is left is to work. its the last part of being young. this is my last year for college and after that, my life is working 3rd shift every night.

Well no, but that’s life. Things change all the time, and people change along with them. Are you the same person now you were two years ago? This change might not be the most positive, but it’s fundamentally no different - you just need to adapt to it. You talk about losing the respect of your parents and wellwishers (friends?), but the only person whose respect you need to worry about is yourself. Something like this can be a hell of a knock to your confidence, I know, but you need you earn your respect for yourself back. Only you know how best to go about this, and if a bit of hard graft is what it takes then that’s what you gotta do. The important thing is not to give up. Learn to respect yourself, and whatever you do with your life you’ll always find people who’ll respect you just for that. As for the people who don’t, you need to learn not to let them get you down. This is your life, and it can be whatever you make it to be.

first semester in college: i failed every class.
next semester I did ok, but the past caught up with my and I was put on probation and could not attend the second semester of my soph year.
That same thing happened the next 2 years as well; I could only go the first semester since my grades wouldn’t go up (due to flunking every class that very first semester).
Throughout that time I wasn’t really even sure what I wanted to do.
Finally, I decided to become a teacher (considering I was already teaching things here and there, and really enjoyed it).
So I have been in college (on and off) for the past 6 years with this year and half of next year still to go.

And you better believe that I felt pretty stupid flunkin out of college.

But, hey, it happens and hopefully you become a better person because of it.