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I have been talking to MANY great people and they all tell me the same thing.

That the man - boy I’m in love with is NOT wroth my time:
1) no REAL gaols, he is not sure of who he is!
2) nothing of his own nor NEVER had anything of his own. ( i don’t have anything right now, but HAD the house, 3 bran new car,trucks lost it - lost my GREAT job…)
3) sleeping with a married women
4) a slob - don’t put the drity clothes in the dirty clothes hamper, don’t put the dirty dishes in the sink
5) personal hygen: showers 1-2 week, brushes teeth 1-2 week if that! works outside in the Florida sun/heat!
6) not wanting to save money or work toward his dreams - instead of staying home saving money like me, he is out with her at the bar and then a room that is about $55.00; $55.00 X 2 = $110.00 a week
7) Really lost in himself - almost depressed. I got depressed causing all this.
8) just a dreamer thinking that “I’ll work all week and then I’ll be able buy that house”… But don’t think about a rainy day!
9) so smart his stupid
10) lazy!!! Well goes to WORK EVER-Day…. but lazy like working on his truck - so it’ll get better gas milages, working in the yard that he messed up.

I know this is LONG, but it helps me and I’m running out of paper. I Do love this man, but I have to love me and if we are ment to be then later when he can prove himself to me then I’ll think about it…

I have been CRAZY, and now its been sometime. I’m starting to see the light again in me.. I still want he to come home and tell me that he “loves” me, but as everyone tells me: Don’t talk to him, don’t even act like he is here - and that will - maybe bring him back, i’m too easy right now he knows that if something is wrong with him and Bobbie - the married ***** then he can come to me and I’ll be happy that he is with me i’ll accpte the fact that he is with both of us…
NO NOT anymore. I’m going to completely not even notic him, nothing no hi, bye nothing and start taking care of ME. Going back to the gym, gettting an RV, trailer until I finsh college then maybe a house…
I know i have said this before, but little by little the more i talk to and they tell me these things and i start thinking about 3,5,10,15 years from now i don’t want to be renting a room from someone… as his best friend told me that my ex will never have those things because he has the “hand to mouth” syndrom - i didn’t know what that was. but that is my ex… and as much as i love him and know that he is making many mistakes, “they are his mistakes to make” how true is that. I love him, but I know that i have too my strong and take care of me, I’m in a medical school, I own my truck, and will be getting an RV or trail to move into for the next year until i finish college… If we are ment to be together then we will be, maybe tomorrow or next year, but sitting here just waiting not doing anything positive is not helping ME!!!
Thank you all for your help , and please be willing to help for a few more months as a completely get over this loser!! I’m strong now, but larer i’ll be weak again…. please pray that i’ll keep being strong….

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