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My stepson is into a aggressive church group that is excessive in their preaching.

He has even started to bring it home to the point where he is telling his Mother that she is not good because he doesn’t believe in God. But she does! Just not the way his church does! We met with one of the leaders of the church to find out what the necessity was that he pray 3-4 times a week a long distance from home, (45 mi one way). We found out that this leader was banished from Russia 18 years ago for his strong beliefs, and now he is practicing here in the USA. We have tried everything we could to discourge the following of this particular church, but with no avail. I have gotten so I don’t even want to be around him! Do you have any suggestions?

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 226 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

How old is he?

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Communation offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Gnernerally, cults like this attract people who are emotionally weak at hte time, are trying to be rebellious, or are bored. the more attention they get, the louder they get.
Take $cientology, around 90% of its followers are loners who join for the empowerment feeling and the new groups of friends they meet.

In general, its best just to ask these people what their problems are really about. Most likely: not haveing anything else to do/worry about, or not haveing a very large socal life.

Cant really advise how to handle it though…. but im sure there ARE advice groups out there, if yo do some reaserch on GOOGLE.

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Deąth offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

I think that is called a Cult actually.

try to get him to stop with it, convince him that its not good to be in one, but dont make it seem like he shouldnt believe in god

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 226 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I say if he is over 18, it’s his right to waste his life like that….

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

yes, if he’s still under your guardianship and you see this as negative behavior, you need to put your foot down and stop him from meeting with this cult and learn to respect his mother. just like any social ills a parent may sometimes have to protect their child from, you need to guide him through this.

explain to him how he’s hurting his mother and directly address the issue of God with him. have you ever spoken to him about religion before. many times people pick up cult-like religions because they feel lost, unimportant, lonely, uncertain, or depressed. THESE might be the issues you should be dealing with.

But if he’s over 18, he does have the right to choose however lifestyle he wants. Although YOU shouldn’t have to deal with him. If he’s really that disrespectful and hurtful, I don’t think you should have to even let him into your house.

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ĐaNi HaŦeS ŸoŪ offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 207 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (21 minutes after post)

religion IS a cult

Well, he’s your stepson not much you can do but what you Can do is get his mother aND/or father and have a chat and maybe you all can come up with some nice way of getting him out of those crazy people’s place

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evansent 2008 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (59 minutes after post)

you need to get him away from this cult &fast!!!these things always end in disasters.
the cult is very good in manipulating young people,they prey on the vulnerable&weak.
you need to find out why your child as been sucked in so easy

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Deąth offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

evansent200 wrote:
you need to get him away from this cult &fast!!!these things always end in disasters.
the cult is very good in manipulating young people,they prey on the vulnerable&weak.
you need to find out why your child as been sucked in so easy

this reminds me of american history X

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evansent 2008 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

Count Deąth wrote:

evansent200 wrote:
you need to get him away from this cult &fast!!!these things always end in disasters.
the cult is very good in manipulating young people,they prey on the vulnerable&weak.
you need to find out why your child as been sucked in so easy

this reminds me of american history X

whats that?

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (2 hours, 49 minutes after post)

Ahh, Churchianity! Beware of the church that says it is the ONLY right one! I can think of two churches that belong in this category, but there are many more. Tell your stepson that there is no theological “pop quiz” administered in front of the Pearly Gates!

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Communation offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (3 days, 16 hours after post)

chev.jame wrote:
theological “pop quiz” administered in front of the Pearly Gates!

That sounds like a good night out!

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