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I am 33 years old, me and my partner of 13 years are near splitting up. we have 2 children, 2 1/2 and 7 months. Since having my second boy, everytime i have a drink i have got very drunk on only a few drinks ( i have never been able to take much to drink) we fell out about 5 months ago at a freinds wedding due to me being drunk, and i promised not to have a drink as we have has these arguments in the past becasuse every time i seem to drink, i either never realise when to stop or get drunk really easily. However, i have had a drink on two occasions, one last wek in which i bought a bottle of wine and drunk 3 glasses, threw the last glass out as i felt drunk ( he was on night shift) and he came in to me being alseep and drunk due to this. I really dont know what to do anymore, i am trying not to have a drink, but i miss having even the slightest drink and i am at a stage where i now feel unable to go out and socialise with freinds (although this does not happen very often with two little ones) I was told that -eanting to have this drin k’ meant that i was an alcoholic, i know this is not true and that i have a big drink problem….I know i cant handle drink, but i still think he is being really unfair on me, telling me that he will only stay with me if i never have a drink again. I know he gets sick when i do get drunk and he is a good person and a fantastic father, but i feel that it is such a hard bargain to keep, socialising as a family unit only, and almost ommitting all our outside freindships and not enjoying a drink with friends at any time in the future, but at the same time, i desperatly want to keep my family together and love being with him when this issue does not arise! I look at people around me who are out very week drinking, im lucky if in the past before i had my youngest, i would go out once every few months, and very rarley drink in the house…..so apart from the odd time i ery rarely drink and get drunk. my mother thinks he is being unreasonable, and thinks that because he is putting these demands on me it is making the situation harder and thinks that is one of the reasons i felt the need to buy drink last week. i kind of agree, i feel really stressed out about the situation and really dont know where to go now!

I have just recieved an appointment, finsally, to go to relate, but he does not want to go with me as he feels the only problem we have is my drinking.

any advise from an outsider would be really appreciated!

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