My Advice to you is to go to clubbs that interest you! Say if your into reading or sports or maybe just are proud of your body join the gym/local club! If you don’t have many interests it’s never to late to start. This way you will meet new people who share the same interests as you.
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well theres your problem..never mind my fammily and all that pish you need good sitcom like Frasier wings scrubs and Allo allo. and then id agree with the above post.
As I said, I do meet people and I can talk to them about anything they want to but that is where it ends and I can never get past just being an acquaintance or an extra wheel.
well i moved to wales from england when i was 13, and i knew NOBODY
but the thigns i started talkign to people about were thier hobbies, what they like doing in thier spare time. if they have msn becuase then you can add them on there or get it yourself. myspace too.
also to do with school, ask abotu future plans, tell them yours then ask “so do you have any?”
small talk works great when making friends =)
Yeah, try going to different clubs. You could try taking up a part time college course on something that really interests you. That way you can work with people on different projects. Sooner or later, your friendship will grow stronger.
The best thing that you can do is just carry on looking for friends and prety soon, you will find someone that wants to be your friend. Remember, that you can’t be friends with everyone. Maybe invite people you have gotten to know, to nights out, maybe.
I’m 36 and I think I might look strange in school. Adults are far less trusting than children. The best way to describe myself is this. Children love me, men tollarate me and women seemed to despised me.
Well, I’ve just checked your profile and have noticed that you live in the UK. There are many adults that study part time education courses. Why is it that you think people look at this way?
ahh i get what you mean now. you can talk to people fine, but being thier friend is a whole new slice of toast
well ask them about msn and myspace, generally if you talk to pople on thier lots you will get closer and more friendly with them
also like Kelsey said, go to clubs or places that interest you, soon you will see those people each time you go and make friends that way
even go out with them in the evenings, meet one friendly person to introduce you and take it from there =)
also, you say women dispise you, that wont be true my friend, just be yourself and you will meet people, girls, who liek you for you. sticking out these times of depression is something you need to get used to
hope i helped somehow, and good luck
its all in your head!if your trying to hard to fit in then your showing yourself to be fake!!!be yourself dont try to imitate others be yourself.
It’s because I’m old and old people should be working and I would if I could get a job.
I am always myself and I find that a lot of people do get on with me but, should I say invite them out, they look at me as if they’re thinking; “you must be crazy.”
that is to go out somewhere fun
evansent200 wrote:
its all in your head!if your trying to hard to fit in then your showing yourself to be fake!!!be yourself dont try to imitate others be yourself.
I agree there. From experience, I have also noticed that if you try TOO hard to make friends, you don’t seem to succeed.
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It’s because I’m old and old people should be working and I would if I could get a job.
Don’t let your age affect you like this. You could just say to them. “I’m going out clubbing or for a meal, are interested in joining?” When making friends, it’s important to just relax and enjoy the time you spend with other people.
I will try but I always feel like an extra wheel, as they usually have girlfriends and I have nothing worth saying
your never to old to do anything if its in your head/heart you can accomplish it.
youve got the drive the upperhand you can do it,
instead of saying i cant say i can !!!
instead of saying i wont say i will
you get the jest start believing in yourself&people will believe in you
I know I can but I can’t change how other think. I can for instance fix you computer, I can lift your spirit but I can not change how I am viewed and wehen I have saked if there is something wrong with me, am told there isn’t. I.E> they are too affraid to tell the truth.
what makes you think your being viewed rather judged?a great saying is if you tend to judge people then three fingers are pointing back dont be one of these people who worry themselves so much they let life pass them by
Have you ever thought that maybe they are right? Maybe there is nothing wrong with you. Judging by what you have been writing, you seem like an alright guy. Have a bit of confidence in who you are. If are with people that you don’t think you will be able to improve the friendship with, maybe consider looking for some other people to be friends with. I’m sure if they didn’t want to be friends with you, they wouldn’t be bothered about you trying to make new friends.
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Are you working at all?
Not at the moment but even when I was working I was just a co worker and nothing more.
I am trying to find work but have not received any replies.
Hey, it’s not all in your head (at least not all of it) I understand much too well the challenge of turning a casual acquaintance into a friendship. Honestly I get near the same reactions you describe so I do understand. Especially that fifth wheel bit.
However… as much as I dislike the happy bouncy optimistic attitudes - come down to earth please - do believe that you have something worth saying (just look at the activity here!) And no, you’re not too old for school, or anything else you feel like. You’re just more, “mature,” like me (i’m 40 in a month - gray hair and lines - darn it)
Otherwise, the yahyahyah is about right. Do the stuff you like to do. Try stuff you never did - ballroom dancing, bird watching or whatever - and invite people you meet to go out with you. And keep inviting till someone says yes. (that last bits the sucky part. we both know why ;)
At least you have hair, you can’t die baldness, LOL
why dont you start playing football or going to new clubs you like maybe start up karate or sumting you are interested in and you are sure to make new friends ehat about work do you not have friends from there ….
II keep trying. Maybe one day I will feel accepted. The trouble is I keep getting this feeling that it’s me, who can’t accept myself.
I was thinking of taking up tai chi, I might help my asthma and quitting smoking. I don’t smoke in public though.
I went through a duration where I never really respected myself and had very low self esteem. Once you can learn to accept who you are and appreciate yourself, you will feel so much better.
I’m 36 and have always hated myself. I don’t even know why?
why dont you go get a nice new look buy a few new clothes and get a nice new hair cut your bound to feel better about your self then … and will sure help your delf esteem
Worth a try. When I get a job that will be on my list along while a holiday, I have been on holiday in a long time.
your 36&your old dont be daft!!!im 40 & im really young lol!seriously you need to get some self worth lv,probably the comments ive made have been harsh
im trying to be cruel to be kind theres no use ***** footing around you need to be told straight :>
why cant you get a job?
Simply put, you would need to ask the hundreds of companies that I have sent C.V too and the many different people that I have spoken to, who say that they don’t have any work that question.
ok what was your previous job
My previous job was in security for about three years and one day, they no longer had any work. I have a one bedroom flat/apartment and the rent needed to be paid, so I had to claim unemployment. I am active seeking work.
Tomorrow, I will be taking walk up to central London, which is about 15 miles and handing my CV to all the companies that I can.
Are you looking for similar jobs in security or just trying to find any job that is available?
I need a job. It doesn’t really matter what it is at the moment, shelf stacking, reception work, anything will do, as long as it pays the bills and over here in the UK, everything cost at least twice as much for everthing as it does in the US.
I have always tried to be helpful and try to help others. For me, I feel happiest when I can help others. It gives me a sense of worth.
Tell me about! It is really expensive. Well if you are looking for just simple jobs such as that, there should be many places around that are looking for people. Have you made sure that your CV is well written? I know it seems a lame question, but I’m just checking.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling happy about helping people. Just remember to look after Number 1 though. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of others. :)
My CV is fine, it has been altered by other people so many times but it does look good and is less than two sheets.
Hopefully I might have some success tomorrow. As scarlet in the film Gone with the wind would say, “Tomorrow is another day”
That’s good to know. Sorry for asking the question, it’s just I meet a lot of people that don’t bother. It’s good to know that you’ve got it checked by other people. It easy to overlook mistakes in your own work.
Just make sure you get them CVs to the different companies and wait for a response. That’s all you can really do at the moment, except for search for other possible jobs just in case. You should also start to change the way you view yourself. Start thinking highly of yourself, go out and treat yourself to something you like. Anything positive.
OK. I love movies, so I might go an see one next week. Thanks for your help everyone.
That’s good. Keep us updated. :)
yea u look cool bro. i go to the movies by myself all the time. it relaxing. im having a hard time finding a job to. im on disableity and cant lift ove ten pounds for 3 months. but i used to not like myself. never talked to people then i just started makeing jokes and tellen people off an being a smart a** and people like me and hung wit me. it was weird. just b urself. someone will like u and b ur freind.
as is u got 1 mo freind bro good luck
Good luck, and make sure you share a common interest with the person you’re befriending then do that with them, and you’ll pass the barrier soon.
For me i just be really friendly and conversation just falls naturally.
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