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How can I increase my self esteem?

I’ve never had strong self esteem. Firstly because I’ve never felt pretty. I grew up feeling ugly, then boys never noticed me, reinforcing this notion. I had a boyfriend, we broke up yesterday. He was the first to notice me, but it wasn’t enough. I don’t feel pretty, no matter what, I think I’m ugly and feel unable to change this view.

Now, I also compare sometimes and I’m also very insecure, like academically, emotionally, etc. I always feel “un-special”, I don’t know.

And now we broke up partly because of my self esteem issues, that were worse than before and because I self harmed. There were other issues, but last night he said he couldn’t be with someone who hated herself so much.

Now my self esteem has hit rock bottom. How can I love myself? How can I see myself as beautiful? And also, how can I get over this loss? I love him so much!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (19 minutes after post)

People often say ‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder’, and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realising that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have dared not to look including inside ourselves.

- Salma Hayek

Look I know I don’t know anything about you but maybe something in your childhood caused your low self esteem. If it is then you need to face your past and look at how that affected you and your personality. I think then you will realise within yourself how to raise your self esteem. I think this is a situation in which only you, the beholder, will be able to solve as only you know exactly what has happened in your life. Either way you must look at youself and think about all the things you can do to help yorself.

Good Luck xo

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (6 hours, 38 minutes after post)

well obviously other people think you are pretty and worth while and everything else, or he wouldn’t have gone out with you in the first place. It’s your lack of self-esteem that ruined it. so the only problem you have is in your head. realize that there is nothing wrong with you in other people’s eyes and it should start to sink in.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (22 hours, 57 minutes after post)

You’re right! You may not be pretty, but if you will suggest yourself that you’re the most beautiful girl and everyone will like you, it will be so. No one will love you if you don’t love yourself! begin with going to the mirror and saying to yourself “I’m the best!”.
I know that I’m not the prettyest girl in city, but (I say objectively) I’ve got a good temper, I know my price and I love my friends, and they answer me with the same. So, the main thing you have to do is to fall in love with yourself :):)
You can do one more thing, write down your pluses and minuses and think how you will underline pluses and hide minuses…
Good luck!!! And remember “you are the best”

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