Love help: need advice on where i should start restoring my life! - Help.com

So you have spare time? do productive things, learn useful things, read books, learn instruments, learn martial arts, do excercise, try to learn languajes, be active, don’t depend on people, are you old enough to get a job? then get a job, make some money, try to grow as a person, happiness should not depend on being or not with other people, I mean if you are with friends, having a good time you feel great, but if when they are gone you feel depressed, then you depend on them, try not to depend on people. Also if you’ve hurt anybody, if you’ve said hurtful things or have problems with your family, try to make amends. Maybe even try a church, find what makes you happy, but don’t try to find a person to make you happy, be active in life, don’t sit down and feel sorry for yourself, you are not changing anything.
Good luck and take care.

Got God?

Try reading Prison to Praise by Merlin Carothers.

You should try getting a job or something too keep you busy. If you don’t need money you could always volunteer, I found donating my time to a local soup kitchen or mentoring a child can be very rewarding. Heck just go out and buy a meal for a homeless guy, you might be surprised at how good it can make you feel too help others.

I’ve been there, so I know what you’re talking about. You were in survival mode for years, but not anymore. But somewhere deep inside, all the things you’ve wanted to do seem less important or less goal-worthy when compared to simple survival.

It’s like a long-term case of that shaky sensation you get when you realize you’ve just missed being killed on the freeway. Suddenly where you were going and what you planned to eat just aren’t important anymore.

I suggest a bit of counselling. Maybe nothing formal, but just a good friend or mentor you can really talk to.

And find at least one thing that still seems important; something that you know you don’t want to live without or that you don’t want to mess up, and put your survival instincts to work on it. When you’ve accomplished some things, other things are more likely to be appealing, because deep inside you’re not comparing them with the need to just get through the day. :)

I agree with at least the first half of Dragon_Lady’s reply.
I’m kinda digging myself outta my own hole right now.
The ways I started fixing my life:
1) GO OUT! You’d be surprised how much just going to a movie with a friend(s) can help! Just call a friend and say “Hey, I’m coming over, we’re going to do something.”
2) Switch some things up. Start an exercise program, or at least go jogging/biking/walking whenever you have time, go different places, enjoy the scenery, talk to people. Have fun with it.

For example, I’m a runner, but I’m always injured, which doesn’t help the whole RUT situation. So I started swimming. Oh and by the way…I don’t have a pool, meaning I have to either go to the public pool or a friend’s house to enjoy the water. That’s another great aspect!
I also changed things up in my house, moved furniture and rearranged artwork, posters, pictures, etc. It gave me a good chance to sort through things, recall fond memories, and put things where I really want them.

Hope this helps!
SMILE!

Well I can assure you that the future day when all your troubles, worries, insecurities, fears are finally gone doesn’t exist, because there’s always a tomorrow with new challengues, falls, success too.
Every day is a different struggle, the tests become harder with time, it gets like that.
We all have to find our place in this world, so don’t stop improving yourself, that’s no wasted time, don’t depend on other people, focus/plan/work your life always thinking in long term, be smart, have courage, lift yourself up when you feel down, wish the best for you, if you don’t no one else will.
Blessings and good luck.