friends help: I found out I am not dating today.

gingerfrag

Marion, NC, US

I found out I am not dating today.

After going out with a guy six times, he told me that we were only friends and not actually dating. This really hurt.

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Pae 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

That’s a little strange. Maybe he lead you on.

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gingerfrag 1 #
Marion, NC, US | 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

I never thought for a second that we were not.

Help me with: My boyfriend seems to point out things, such as my moles, my teeth, etc… He tells me these things do not bother him,

Pae 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Has he ever done anything like put his arm around you, kissing, etc…things that are “dating” behavior.

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gingerfrag 1 #
Marion, NC, US | 3 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Definitely.

Help me with: My boyfriend seems to point out things, such as my moles, my teeth, etc… He tells me these things do not bother him,

skyy 43 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Well those are clear signs of “dating” or showing interest in someone. You need to tell him NOT to do those things if you two are not dating. And ask him what was the purpose of those “get togethers” if you two were not dating

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Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (7 minutes after post)

gingerfrag wrote:
Definitely.

Player.
Is there another girl he likes? whats his background?

skyy 43 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Because if it were vice versa he would be very upset and angry because in his eyes you lead him on or that you were a tease.

I would get rid of this loser and find someone who is serious and more considerate of other ppl’s feelings. Because he was playing with you emotions and that is not ok in my book

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skyy 43 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (9 minutes after post)

I made a lot of mistakes because its late but hopefully you get my drift.

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gingerfrag 1 #
Marion, NC, US | 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Thanks skyy. It hurts to think I was stupid enough to think he liked me for more than just friends. I do not understand why he wanted until today to tell me this.

Help me with: My boyfriend seems to point out things, such as my moles, my teeth, etc… He tells me these things do not bother him,

Pae 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

There could be the possibility that maybe he backed out of it because a commitment sort of thing.

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gingerfrag 1 #
Marion, NC, US | 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

I suppose that is possible pae. Now I have to deal with the confusion and hurt and I don’t like those feelings.

Help me with: My boyfriend seems to point out things, such as my moles, my teeth, etc… He tells me these things do not bother him,

Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Ginger…

Did he have an ex or something? Didnt he give you any explanation?

skyy 43 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (19 minutes after post)

Or maybe you two arent compatible in his eyes. That has happened to me. I didnt even like this guy in the beginning but eventually i fell for him because he was persistant. Then all of a sudden he said he only want us to be friends. After the fact that he gained my liking. It sucks but trust me you will move on and realize that he was not even worth your time, but an experience. Everything happens for a reason. Hopefully you will know certain things you didnt know in the past whenever the next guy comes around

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gingerfrag 1 #
Marion, NC, US | 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

No explanation, joey. Anything is possible. I am really confused though.

Help me with: My boyfriend seems to point out things, such as my moles, my teeth, etc… He tells me these things do not bother him,

Anonymous #
3 months ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

The exact same thing happened to me! I went out with this girl about 10 times…we kissed…movies…everything seemed great! Then one day at her house when I went to kiss her she told me she didn’t think we were dating!

WTF IS UP WITH THAT?

Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (2 hours, 11 minutes after post)

gingerfrag wrote:
No explanation, joey. Anything is possible. I am really confused though.

Thanks for replying.
I just found it wierd that the guy didnt act upfront about what he felt. I thought about the possibility of him recently breaking up with a girlfriend and maybe going out with you “in the meantime” sort of speak, without telling you something…(?).

gingerfrag 1 #
Marion, NC, US | 3 months ago (2 hours, 14 minutes after post)

He said that he had never had a serious relationship. He said that usually he did not get pat the first date.

Help me with: My boyfriend seems to point out things, such as my moles, my teeth, etc… He tells me these things do not bother him,

gingerfrag 1 #
Marion, NC, US | 3 months ago (2 hours, 18 minutes after post)

He said he had a “weird” criteria. He said that he could never date someone that had worked for or associated with a certain race. I had worked for the people that he spoke of and I thought he had gotten past that. Maybe he hadn’t. I just do not understand why he waited to tell me after going out with me six times. He should have just treated me like a friend if he only wanted a friend, and not like a girlfriend.

Help me with: My boyfriend seems to point out things, such as my moles, my teeth, etc… He tells me these things do not bother him,

Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (3 hours after post)

gingerfrag wrote:
He should have just treated me like a friend if he only wanted a friend, and not like a girlfriend.

Yup.
Now you know, but dont worry…its better to know sooner than later.
Be safe ginger, you will be fine.

Anonymous #
3 months ago (7 hours, 10 minutes after post)

gingerfrag wrote:
He said he had a “weird” criteria. He said that he could never date someone that had worked for or associated with a certain race.

uh, racist much?? Not sure what you meant by that… maybe you can explain more detail?

but, is he worth it? Sounds like a dud to me, don’t sweat it, move on and find someone who’s worth your time!

unidiamond3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

I say feed him a taste of his own medicine. Best way to get back at a person without causing drama is to disregard him completely. Stay away from this guy until he figures out what a good thing he lost.

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