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Umm… Yeah you should talk to him, maybe see a psychiatrist.

if you love him and want to marry him, you should be able to give up cutting for him. If you can’t, it means you like it more than him

I have seen a psychiatrist but that was a long time ago. And I want to give up cutting, I had not done it for quite sometime… I just got the urge back.
But he was not there for the earlier part of my life when I was a cutter so the issue is bringing it up. It’s hard to get people that have not gone through it to understand the mindset of a cutter.

emoch wrote:
I have seen a psychiatrist but that was a long time ago. And I want to give up cutting, I had not done it for quite sometime… I just got the urge back.
But he was not there for the earlier part of my life when I was a cutter so the issue is bringing it up. It’s hard to get people that have not gone through it to understand the mindset of a cutter.

compare it to something he does to relieve stress. does he drink or smoke, thats self harm too, close enough. he may understand better than you think

He rarely drinks, and he quit smoking. Would the previous addiction to smoking still be a good thing to use?

yeah, he can understand that. and he might be able to give you a few tips on quiting a harmful addiction too.

If you plan to marry this guy, he is part of your life and will be part of it as long as you live. It is always recommended to be honest especially with what you are going through.

You said that you planned on marrying him. The relationship won’t be worth much if you can’t tell him such a big peice of your past. You CANNOT base you relationship on a lie if you want it to go somewhere like marriage and have the two of you live happily ever after. Start talking to him, you may be surprised at what he knows.