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How old is this fiance?

Okay; calm down.

There is help, and it’s there for you. I promise. But you need to let us help you, okay?

Anon….

Where are you now?

other i just have a huge scar on my chest for trying to kill myself with a knife in the heart.

How old are you? I assume they put you in the hospital for these attempts? If so, were you advised to go to a shelter or seek counselling?

Dragon…

I calculated 17 (?)

from:

“i left home at 15 and did alright for a fifteen year old. i met a guy, thought he was the best thing in the world.”

and

“we have been together for almost two years”

And Im so mad at these type of guys.
Thats why I want to know his age.

Yes; 17 is my guess, too. :(

But even if she’s 77, she’s too young to have to live with this. :(

Its sad.

I would like to know if she has any other family members around she could go to (grandma, aunt, anybody else?)

I hope she doesn’t harm herself.

Anon, are you here?

I’ll talk to you all night, if you need, but you need to let us know you’re here.

im 17 years ole he is 21…my bday is in two days

Okay.

First, he’s an adult, and you’re still a minor. That gives you a LOT of protection. Unfortunately, not for long. I HOPE you’re in the US?

Hes a jerk.

Pleasure to meet you charhee.
Glad you answered.

Any other family members you could reach out to?

Charhee, we need to find you a safe place to go.

Whether you love him or not, he isn’t good for you. And his violence and controlling behavior will only get worse until he’s either forcible stopped, or kills you -and it’s a gamble which will come first.

We need to get you out of there, and into a place where you will be able to begin healing. Can you tell us approximately where you are? We need country and city so we can do searches for the help you need.

I agree with you Dragon.

First step should be get away from the guy.
He’s preventing her from any positive outcome.

Well, I hope you don’t do anything you can’t undo. I’m off to bed now, but I’m here almost everyday, and you can shout me anytime.

idk what to do…or who to tell…i have a big family but i dont want them involved with my mistakes. they have enough to deal with..trust me

No i wont trust you until you try.
Family is family.
Do they know about your situation?

First thing is to remove yourself from him. There are many shelters for battered women. You have been abused all of your life, and you really don’t need a man to abuse you anymore! The key is to know how much you can take before saying this is it and walk away. It’s hard at first, but NO MAN (and he isn’t a man if he hits you anyway-he’s a punk) should make you feel that way about yourself. If you have to run away again, then do it. You have to put yourself first. Learn to love yourself. Listen to India.Arie’s song Video. This song is very uplifting. Don’t be depressed about this, there is always help-don’t be afraid to ask for it. Google some places for domestic violence(which includes mental abuse), read the Bible, go to a church and have a pastor pray for you, and get involved into something that will take your mind off a lot of things. You are still young, yet, you have been through more that a lot of adults have been through.

jesus christ!!!just stop,please talk to me give me a shout please

do not end your life please.it’ll get better.you know not everyday is bad and a happy one either.hang in there…

Thank you all for your support. idk what im going to do first. but im going to try to do something.

charhee_12_0 wrote:
Thank you all for your support. idk what im going to do first. but im going to try to do something.

If you’re feeling suicidal, the only thing you need to do is call 911. Then tell the truth, and keep telling to every person you encounter. Tell them about the previous attempts, and tell them about the abuse. If you are in the US, they WILL help you to make a better life.

I know you probably don’t want to leave him. So don’t. Just take a break and leave his presence. You can work on the relationship in the future; but first you have to make sure you have a future.

Plzz help me im giving up hope. all i wanted was forgiveness and things to work out. he beat me harder than ever before and all i have is love for him. im loosing my mind and my heart slowyly. my head hurts so bad and things are blurry. all i do is love and im a bad person for that. for anyone out there who loves and is punished for it please help me. i just want him back like we used to be in love so much and there for eachother. thats all i want. ive never loved like this before and i will not give up hope on him no matter what he does. if it means dying for somehting i believe in i will…

Call 911 now.

You MUST get yourself some help, and you must do it NOW.

I’ve been in an abusive relationship. There’s only one way to have a chance of ever fixing it, and that is by taking care of yourself. You MUST put your own safety and well-being first.

hugs from Hazel, you know you need to get out of there.

Are you okay today?

Are you okay? Where Are you?