Money help: I DESPERATELY NEED HELP STRAIGHT AWAY PLEASE ANYONE READ THE STORY BELOW AND TRY N HELP ME!

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I DESPERATELY NEED HELP STRAIGHT AWAY PLEASE ANYONE READ THE STORY BELOW AND TRY N HELP ME!

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i’m new to this but i’ll try my best to tell you whats on my mind maybe someone can help me.
ok I am in UK right now.situation is I am pregnant nearly 15th week…my fiance (yes there is one and i’m happy) deserted from the english army about seven months ago.basicly just the day that we met.
I am german so we met in germany…well i din’t know at first he deserted but after a week they picked him up off the street and said he has to go with them as he deserted but he managed to get away again. well from there on it was my best kept secret as i love him and i never wanna loose him.
he asked me to marry him just 1,5 months after we met and i said yes. since i have big uterus problems the doctors told me i might not be able to have kids but then i got pregnant and we are both very rejoiced.then we decided to go to UK because of better work opportunity for me and cash in hand jobs for him.he cares a lot about me and everyone who has met him thinks so too e.g. my mom.
i haven’t met his parents yet but i spoke on the phone to his dad. well they are not very happy about the situation.now 5 days ago on fri he has been caught and was arrested straight away. he had to leave me back with little money left a few days before that my mobile and my wallet had been stolen with all his and my bank stuff in it our IDs and basically everything.
now i’m stuck in UK the hotelroom i’m living in was given to me cheaper and i only have it for another two days and the last money i have is 55 pounds. I tried to ring the german emassy a few times but no one would pick up and at a different number of the embassy they told me i need to find out on the internet what i will need for a new passport and that i then have to make an appointment there to apply for a new one(which it sais on the internet can take up to six months!!!!)
well there is no one who can help me here without a bank account i can’t get a job nor without a permanent address or the NI number(national insurance) I have no access to my fiances bank account and he can’t do anything as he’s imprisioned.they will pick him up today to bring him to germay (he is english solider who was based in my hometown)where he will be sentenced and then he comes back after a few weeks and goes to prison here.
my parents are no help and even if i could get back to germany i couldn’t expect any help as i all turned it down when i came to UK.situation would be different if i was english.my finance wants to escape before they pick him up as he wants to be with me and he doesn’t want me to be on my own in a foreign country especially not now that i’m pregnant.
Is that any wise tho? I desperately need help please i dunno what to do. thanks a lot xx val

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Anonymous #
3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

:( holy ****, that really really sucks :(

I have no idea what you should do aside from getting to your embassy ASAP… and call the cops about the wallet and ****…

sorry i can’t be of more help :(

good luck!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

well thanks doesn’t really help survive right now.i usually am strong and can always get back up to my feet but right now i just can’t go on i’m stuck and hurt and i cry every night, i even pray but i never get any idea out of anythingand the internet is no help either e.g. google….they can’t just let a pregnant woman starve and leave her with no money nor a place to sleep, can they??? :(

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Anonymous #
3 months ago (17 minutes after post)

there must be support groups in your city that can help you. if you can, try to hook up with someone, even a social worker or something in your area…

you need advice from the right people… start reaching out until you find the right person :)

I’m thinking about ya, it’s a tough situation, but you can do it!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (38 minutes after post)

i will i know it’s just a matter of time.social workers here have told me they can not help me as i’m not english.if i was i had a better chance of help.a place to stay at etc…
i just always ask myself what do i do if i can’t find help and i haven’t got any money at all left?not so much for me but for my baby…maybe i should just play terribly sick and go to hospital or go there and pretend i faint or something maybe they will put me in a hospital bed and they send social hospital worker who can help me… i don’t know.

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Anonymous #
3 months ago (42 minutes after post)

don’t the social workers know who they can refer you to? It seems mighty irresponsible to be all “Sorry can’t help! Go away!” There must be some sort of organization that can help you, even if it’s not the social worker, the social worker should know who’s out there that CAN help….

did you try actually going to the embassy?

I’m angry at that now…. grrr

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (57 minutes after post)

www.citizensadvice.org.uk

Contact these people. You can make an appointment and someone will be able to help you with regards to all your problems,

They can also advise you on where you are able to stay and get some benefits or help with you passport.

There is a way you can get your passport within a day but its more expensive and you have to go to “Swansea”.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Thanks that might help me out and thanks for rading…i aprechiate it a lot…maybe i will have at least one night of good night sleep this time.
it’s very difficult when you don’t know anyone especially in a different country…

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

Bottom8 wrote:
Thanks that might help me out and thanks for rading…i aprechiate it a lot…maybe i will have at least one night of good night sleep this time.
it’s very difficult when you don’t know anyone especially in a different country…

I can imagine its really difficult. but your doing the right thing by looking for help. Don’t worry-keep positive. Make sure you check out that website because they are advisors and they are free so you can use them to help you.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

well i got a telephone number for a local citizen advice center here so will call them straight away and explain my situation and they will hopefully help me.i hope they don’t sent me away as well because i’m german and i don’t live here…but thanks a lot.though times are hard i need to keep my head up.
not only for myself but for my fiance who sits locked up in his room staring at the sonor pic he was allowed to keep…
xx val

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

Citizens advice isn’t allowed to send you away. They have to give you the advice and information you need. They are there to help you. Good luck :)

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 30 minutes after post)

thanks if you say that i’ll put my trust in it.cos i dnt think that there really is no one who can help.you just have to ask the right ppl.
cheers xx

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (3 hours, 25 minutes after post)

Es tut mir sehr leid! Deserters are both criminals and losers. He will end up in a British prison. Do you really want someone who makes a commitment, as to the British Army, and then backs out on that commitment? I believe that his desertion is a harbinger of things to come. Ask the German Embassy to get you home. Stay with your parents and get a job.

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