Love help: Will my life ever be good? - Help.com

We all find someone, sooner or later…but life will never be simple, that’s why we’ve to keep moving…

But if you wanna talk, I’m here =)

My whole life is a mess! Have you ever been all alone not one person who cares that you are on the planet!!!

Yeah, kinda…
Almost everyone here had that feeling…
So, what’s your story?

It is not a feeling it is a fact, My story is that I was married for 10 years to a raging alcoholic I have 3 kids I had a boyfriend for a couples years again a raging alocolic I have lost ALL of my friends and family due to the fact that I chose to stand by him! He recently has to decided to get sober and has shut me out!! He has his friends and his family and I am alone they have all rallied around him and I am out I don’t understand why!

Have you talked to him?
what about trying to talk to your family?

First of all stop feeling so sorry for yourself because that will never get you anywhere. Second, know that there is someone out there for you you just have to have some faith. Put yourself out there , go somewhere new. Meet new people. As for having no one to talk to there are plenty of people out there willing to listen you just have to do a little searching. Go talk to a religious leader of some sort or a counciler. Try talking to a close family member. THeres always someone there for you you just have to have a little faith. :)

I have faith I do I wake up everyday thinking positive and with a smile and then reality sets in and I begin the struggle again I am poor I have no money 3 kids, no friends no family I have faith I pray daily sometimes all day yet nothing ever changes and I do work on changing my own situation I am actively looking for another job. I am trying to control my children but nothing ever changes everyday is the same a struggle just to live!

Anonymous wrote:
It is not a feeling it is a fact, My story is that I was married for 10 years to a raging alcoholic I have 3 kids I had a boyfriend for a couples years again a raging alocolic I have lost ALL of my friends and family due to the fact that I chose to stand by him! He recently has to decided to get sober and has shut me out!! He has his friends and his family and I am alone they have all rallied around him and I am out I don’t understand why!

I’m so sorry, Hon. But now is the time to start putting yourself first. It’s time to take care of you, take care of your kids, and just learn to be without these people who can do nothing but hurt.

When you’re feeling better, you’ll attract better people. But it’s baby steps and it starts with you.

Shower, comb your hair, put on some lipstick, take a long walk…. Little things to be sure, but they are the first steps to reclaiming your own life.

I promise things will get better. But it will take some work. Can you get some counselling? It really does help to have someone to talk to that can help you see how important and valuable you are, even if you are completely alone.

Mmm…I feel the same way…I’m just waiting till it changes…hopefully it will…lol

I can not afford couseling I get up everyday and try I smile and am polite but nothing changes it has been six years I am tireed of waiting for it to change I
and I am beginning to think it never will!

ya…I know how u feel…I feel like my lifes sucked for 5 or 6 years too and it just seems to get worse

Trust me hon, it will get better.
And I don’t know if you’re looking for comfort or truth, but I’m giving you both. (Funny how sometimes they go hand in hand, eh?)
We all feel like this sometimes — it lasts longer for others than for some, but no matter what, we’ve all been through it. and we all know how it can completely deflate you.

What you have to do is get out there and do something to make you feel better.
I know that sounds scary, and that all you want to do is sit in your room and think about how much life sucks — trust me, I’ve been there — but that won’t get you anywhere. Because until you do something about it, that pain will always be there. Sometimes it will hide deep inside of you, but it will never go away.
Unless you make it.

You have to power to change your life. You just have to take it one step at a time.

Find someone to talk to — it helps more than you would think.

And more than anything, keep your faith.
You’re strong, and no one but you has the power to make you feel bad about yourself.

Just keep telling yourself, “Hope, faith, and trust.”

Remember that there are always people that care about you.
Always.

Anonymous wrote:
I can not afford couseling I get up everyday and try I smile and am polite but nothing changes it has been six years I am tireed of waiting for it to change I
and I am beginning to think it never will!

Yes; it will. I promise. I’ve been in bad situations that seemed to go on forever, too. But things WILL get better.

Do you have anyone you can talk to? A relative or a pastor or even just a sympathetic neighbor? Maybe someone else in similiar circumstances so you can listen to each other?

Well I would like to believe that people always care but they don’t!!!
I have not ONE person who even cares if my heart beats on a daily basis
I just had a birthday a couples days ago not ONE person called me and
wished me happy birthday not one so no I do not have anyone to talk to.

Then find someone.

Get a hobby, and try to meet other people who are interested in it, too.

Join a church and volunteer for something.

Volunteer at a hospital or a animal shelter and get to know people there.

You have to MAKE things happen, not just wait on them.

Ofcourse it will, You need to follow the below;

1)Be yourself
2)Know what you can do (Determine yourself).
3)Always encourage yourself no matter worth.
4)Always Believe you will make it.
5)Don’t be lazy

You will. Don’t stress yourself. Love, like beauty, doesn’t happen in a snap. It will unfold when the time is right. Join organizations that are in-line with your ideals. Find a worthwhile hobby etc. You might find the one you looking for while you are engaged in various worthwhile activities.

Life will get better. No way to go but up remember? Life has its ups and downs but it is what makes life worth living. Amidst the downs of life are the joy, love and heart-warming feeling you’ll get from life. So hold on. Life will be better. You’ll see.

In whatever situation you are now and in whatever state you’ll be, take everything as a positive challenge. The challenges that life puts you through should make you a better person, not a weaker one.

As to all the pain you feel now? Put it behind you. Don’t let anything keep you from enjoying life and from letting the world enjoy your smile.