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I feel so..hopeless.

I started my fall semester today, it’s really great being in college an all, but I was really hoping I’d see ‘her’ again. I never really talked to her during spring semester but she would always stand next to me at the bus stop after class ended (we’re not in the same classes though). I only began to notice her half way through the spring semester, and eventually began hoping to see her the next day… same place, same time. No I’m not a stalker or anything like that, if she showed up, she showed up, which really made my day to be honest. But if she didn’t, I didn’t go looking for her or anything. Well, maybe I did skip a bus or two every now an then hoping she’d come. I really wanted to talk to her and get a chance to know her and let her know who I am, but I just never found the courage to. The last time I saw her was the 2nd to last day of spring semester when I sat next to her in the bus. It was probably the best chance I had since the bus wasn’t crowded as it usually is (…and I was next to her). But then I started to think that it might have been a little awkward to began a conversation then when we were standing at the bus stop the whole time. And so I let it slip away. =(
Today I started my fall semester and was hoping I’d see her around and maybe things could work out this time (yeah.. right). I was sitting on the steps in the campus waiting for my second class to start and hoping maybe she’ll be around this semester too, but I think that last chance I had was the only one I ever had… she could probably be in another college or even graduated, or in another state or country or… you know. I know this is all silly and Ill probably get over it after awhile. Its just that, before her I was finding it really hard to fall for someone. I mean yeah there are a lot of pretty girls around but none that really got to me you know. I don’t even know why I typed this up, I guess I just had to let someone know. I’m not really expecting a reply I know this is probably too long of a post, and I know what happens will happen and Ill just have to deal with it as it comes and not to make the same mistake again. But still… =(

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Morally Ambiguous JD offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 144 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (7 minutes after post)

hey sometimes in life you miss out, i did once and i never thought id get a shot at it again, a few years later i did but with someone else, so give it time and you’ll meet that someone dont stress about it.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Thanks, Ill try to not worry about it so much, but I was looking forward to seeing her all summer. Just kinda sucks to face reality that she’s probably not around anymore.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Unrequited love is very sad, it hurts so much. And a missed chance always makes you think ‘what if’. However it also teaches you to grasp opportunities with both hands in the future. Next time you meet someone so good, you will remember this experience and take the chance. Never again will you feel ‘what if?’.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (15 minutes after post)

I read a quote just 2 or 3 days ago, I added it to my messenger’s profile:

“There are many things in your life that will catch your eyes
but only a few will catch your heart… pursue those.”

Feels so motivating, but how.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Anubis wrote:
Unrequited love is very sad, it hurts so much. And a missed chance always makes you think ‘what if’. However it also teaches you to grasp opportunities with both hands in the future. Next time you meet someone so good, you will remember this experience and take the chance. Never again will you feel ‘what if?’.

Exactly like me Anubis, im sure you could vouch for that lol… i actually met that person on this site a few weeks ago hehe so it can happen anytime anywhere, so dont worry relax and it will happen.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (3 days after post)

sunxfyre:( I am soooo sorry you are in pain. I have been taking a break from help.com for a few weeks and just got to the invite from Anubis today. Keep your heart and your eyes open, there is always unexpected pleasures to find. I agree with what Anubis said

Anubis wrote:
Unrequited love is very sad, it hurts so much. And a missed chance always makes you think ‘what if’. However it also teaches you to grasp opportunities with both hands in the future. Next time you meet someone so good, you will remember this experience and take the chance. Never again will you feel ‘what if?’.

“Learn from your past and the future will be different:).” SoulRising:)

“You are such a special person, do not grow impatient, you will have your just deserts:)!” Me:) your friend, SoulRising:)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

its really difficult to do things which we are not assured of doing it or i’ll say that there would be a bad or good effect after doing something.all of whats happening in our life is not that predictable. im writing this for the reason that im also hopeless in the other way around. in the sense that i dont know what to do anymore..im a only child and i gues im on the stage of having a boyfriend but this issue made a great change in me and my family.as a filipino, were known to be family oriented but i really love my family.but this time i really dont know and i am confused .i just want to be happy with the guy i am with for the past four years.we have a secret relationship because i am afraid that my father would be angry with me. and now that they found out that i am having a relationship with my childhood friend, they are all angry. and i cant help but cry most of the time and i see myself unhappy with the situation i am having right now… i know is not right to hate my parents and relatives .all i say is that i hate myself!of having this kind of choice.i am realy confuse.i thaught verthing would be alright but i gues is not like that.i really hate myself!

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