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hello people,

In the past six months the following has transpired either to me or I made it happen. I won’t contextualize so you can take each item on its own merit instead of me sugarcoating or rationalizing.

1. I broke up with a girlfriend of nearly 3 years on Valentine’s day over a philosophical disagreement. It wasn’t pre-meditated.
2. Shortly thereafter (a week) began a physical relationship with someone from my hometown who I’d been talking to on the phone for a few months prior to the Valentine’s day break-up.
3. Decided to move-in with the person from my hometown in June.
4. Quit my ridiculously well paying job early June and moved cities to start a life with the hometown girl.
5. Asked hometown girl to go home by the end of July.
6. Day after hometown girl leaves I receive a DUI.
7. Finally found work that pay similarly to original job mid-August.
8. Have been told to **** off and die by original girlfriend and hometown girl. (totally deservedly).

What now? I am in debt. Not in the city I want to live in. Have no one. Completely lost and feel like I’m going deeper into bills everyday.

Anyone, help?

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

I can’t really help the lonely aspect, only you can do that but as regards to your debts.

Sit down and work out a budget you can afford, then contact the debtors and explain the situation. Then make them a reasonable offer that you can afford and do not let them try and get you to pay more.

That should at least be one less worry for you.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

With the extra money you will have, you will feel better and will be able to at least enjoy yourself and pamper yourself from time to time and believe me, it will make you feel happier.

You might even meet someone who will love you for who you are.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (5 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Downward Spiral. I know it well, having not gotten out of mine. Anyway, sounds like there’s more than one thing going on right now, so all I can think of is simplify. Find one thing you can work on (and that you might HAVE to work on) and just focus on that. You might also want to find someone you can talk to regularly. I know I always get lost in the trees looking for the forest. If you can’t find someone you know, try visiting a counselor just to clear your head. Or you can shout at me here too :)

“I couldn’t go forward, and I couldn’t go back, so I took another road altogether.” - paraphrased from The Left Hand of Darkness

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (17 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Thanks for the note D. My guess is things are on their way up but it is hard to tell when your the one living it. Counselor is an idea I’ve tried and liked, just changed jobs so am unable to go back to that person. Maybe it is time to look into that again with my new job’s insurance.

“what will come is better that what has been” Lou Reed

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