hate help: Why does my ex hate me so much? - Help.com

First of all, you’ve to let him go…
And maybe you did hurt him, and you hadn’t noticed about it…some ppl really care about little things, and I mean that they REALLY care about them…

Search for someone else, realize that this thing isn’t going anywhere…try to leave him behind, forget about him

First of all. Have you ever thought that he might actually hate himself. It isn’t uncommon for a male to lash out at other people when he should really be blaming himself.

2511 is right. He isn’t worth the time of day and will only upset you further.

becouse us men are so childish and dont show the sad or upset emotion cos the angry one pops up first.It takes time for the male to forgive

ps we dont blame ourselves for any thing ever

Sometimes guys, and probably girls too, just can’t be friends with their ex’s. It can be worse than just akwardness, as sometimes comments said in arguements can cut deep, deeper than the person ever lets on. I’m managing to be friends with my recent ex, but he said some really hurtful things that I’ve never really forgiven him for. But you and him had a long relationship, so maybe he’s finding it easier to just completly cut you off.

You’ve to learn to let go…
He’s probably doing it, so that you go away from him…

You’ll have to overcome this sooner or alter…
The only thing I can say to you, is that yo need to keep your mind off of him…I dunno, do something that you like doing, search for someone new, talk to your friends, whatever keeps you from thinking about him…

i dont think theres any going back to him but he prob felt the same only got angry and started being mean i remember being like that to one of my old x s so dont blame yourself that what alot of men do when that type of thig happens and we do get over it quite fast but when the new girl friend dumps us we will try to get back with an x to see if we can

helpm wrote:
I have been….I mean I can’t say that it hasn’t gotten remotely better. Im in a new band, I’m going to school and I’m trying to meet new people…….BUT that over all hurt feeling does not go away.
And why does he want me to go away? What did I do? These are all questions that I can’t find answers for.

You don’t need to know that…at least now…the answer may come later, as times passes…but now, you need to act…

helpm wrote:
I’m trying! I just wish I understood.
I wish he’d talk to me, I wish he’d be a friend to me. I thought he loved me in a sincere way, not some immature way where if things didn’t work out he’d just completely abandon me. It sucks.

When someone abandons you, it always sucks…it’s a great lost…
But if you keep thinking about him, you’ll never be fine again…

And don’t worry so much, you’ll get pass through it…we all do…

And I know it’s not easy, but at least you know what you’ve to do…

I am going threw the same situation sort of. My ex and dated for almost 2 years. He left me was very rude to me for awhile then after the girl he left me for left him we started to talk again. We became best friends we loved each other so much. Then he got another girlfriend and now I am nothing. He wont look at me if we pass each other. Calls me names. Leaves me rude messages on myspace. The best thing you can do is ignore it. I know it is hard I really do! But everytime you think of him and miss him try your hardest to remember how he hurt you and how he is still hurting you. He isnt worth any of your time. Start forgetting about him and live life for yourself. He will be the one crawling back and thats when you ignore him!

Also your hurt feelings will never go away if he was your first love. I know thats something no one wants to hear but its true. My mom told me that everyday will get better and I didnt want to listen and 4 years after he broke up with me for the first time I am still hurt. But I know what he had was fun and I would never take it back. Why he treats me this way, espically now he is 22 and I am 19 and he just once again stopped talking to me about 2 months ago, but I will never know why he does this. I just think of it as his own guilt. He must feel so bad for what he did that he wants nothing at all to do with me that way there will be nothing to remind him of what he did or how happy he use to be.

“I feel so frusterated. I feel like I lost my best friend and now I’m just nothing to him compared to his new girlfriend and new life. It’s been 2 months now and it still hurts so bad.”
This is how I feel. I understand your pain. It’s been 8 months and it still hurts like hell.

Why would he hate you so much? I cheated on my bf….he never said he hates me, but I understand why my ex doesn’t want to talk to me. He does talk to me, but he doesn’t want to be with me. That is killing me? Did u ever ask him why is he so angry with you?

helpm wrote:
Thank you so much everyone. I have to say, I doubt he will ever come back to me. He really REALLY seems to dislike me a lot..he told me he wishes he never got involved with me, he says Im crazy, too emotional…all that stuff. He seems to have lost any good feelings towards me and I don’t think there is anything I can do to change that. I know I acted obsessive by calling him so much, but I honestly thought that if I just told him how I felt that he would remember that he too felt that way and that he was making a mistake. I didn’t do it for crazy reasons, I just thought that if I was honest with him about how I felt he would appreciate it. What a mistake. I wish there was something I could do to take it back and rebuild his impression of me, but I don’t think there is. ?

Nope, there isn’t….not at this point..
And you made a mistake, but at least, now you know what you don’t have to do next time…

I’m sorry for your loss, but sometimes it’s for the better…

helpm wrote:
I have no idea….that’s what I want to know. And I have asked him, why do you hate me, what did i do, why do you have to be so mean about all this? and he just wont answer. i never cheated on him, nothing like that. he broke up with me because we would argue about me wanting doing stuff with him alone, about him partying too much, about me not liking his drug addict friend, stuff like that…. to me that isn’t any reason to hate someone. is it? i only wanted more from the relationship, and he couldnt do that so he dumped me. my sister’s husband tells me that some immature guys get really upset and angry when their relationships dont work out so easily…that they don’t understand that they actually have to work at them, and they just get mad at the person for them “ruining” the relationship. does anyone else agree with this theory? i guess i could see it, but it is so unbelievably lame!

You expected to much from someone…if you give your love to someone, don’t expect they give you the same thing back…

he is actinge really immature…I don’t get that. i wish i never cheated on my bf, but i can’t go back…he doesn’t want to forgive me. do u think it might be connected to your abortion?

Stop thinking about him…the matter will end up poisoning your mind…let it be…don’t so much about all that, it’s happened, and the only thing left to do is to learn from the experience and move on…

That’s great!

Just keep moving forward…soon, it’ll be all an old story ;)

You’ll feel much better!

helpm wrote:
Thanks! I know you’re right, I know that as bad as this is or seems to be, it’s not the end of the world. Where one door closes another opens, and if I have the right mind set I can make the best of it, and maybe this will even end up being for the better. Sometimes I do feel sad and very hurt by it though. It comes and it goes.

You’re doing great!
That’s the way you should be, you’re in the right path ;)
You’ll see, that you’ll see this as something normal in the future, and you’ll earn a lot of experience through it!

And the “comes and goes” feeling, it’s just normal =)

I wish I was 17. I am 33, how sad huh, and I cheated. I don’t know what is worse-not having him anymore or the feel of quilt. I don’t think he will ever forgive me.He acts like I never existed in his life.I wish I had the strength to move on.
How old are u, if I can ask? Were u not ready to have a kid? I wish I had a kid.At least i’d have someone who would love me for who i am. I am trying to find answers for myself. Our situations are so different, but so similar.

I was married for 28 yrs when my h walked out. We have been divorced almost a year now . What I cannot understand is how he can act like he doesn’t even know me. I am a mother to his five children and yet I might as well be the girl behind the fast food place . How does he do this and why. I was never unfaithful. I was the one that stayed home and raised the 5 kids while he was off at work. 2-3-4 hrs late every night….sometimes more. He has cheated numerous times and he is the one who HATES me? Why and how.