friends help: ok,so i feel like i am friendless - Help.com

First of all. Don’t put on an act around your friends. If you are fed up, be fed up. They may or may not be aware of how you really feel if you are not honest with them.

You will find in life that friends drift apart but they can also drift back together. give some of your old friends a call, you might be pleasantly surprised to find that they really enjoy speaking to you and maybe you will hook up again.

I don’t have close friends, I only have some friends, who sometimes appear, and sometimes they don’t…it isn’t such a big deal rly….
Mmm…what can I tell you…
Well, you need to get used to it, feeling like crap won’t drive you anywhere…you need to start living life, to do what makes you happy…

Life is like a hill in San Franciso. There are a lot of ups and downs. Always be yourself and you will find that you will get a few real friends and you won’t even know that they are. Let it happen naturally and don’t worry about it.

I find that music makes me happy too. I found that keeping yourself occupied helps. Have you ever thought about making a website about your favourite bands, I would love to read it.

I go through periods, sometime years where nothing makes me happy but I am always trying to find something that will keep me busy.

Find something that suits your tastes, something that you love doing…it isn0t like you just know it, you need to find your passions…

I can relate to a lot in your situation. I have 2 friends at the moment whom I only see every couple of months for brief periods. It is important to remember that you are not the only one - there are other people in the same boat all over the world. Most of the people I have come across in my life that find themselves in situations like this are quite individualistic in some way or have a big heart (or even both).

Just remember to hang in there and take whatever steps you can to eventually put yourself in with more chances of being with people that you have something in common with. This could be your career choices, going to some night classes, taking part in some event maybe. But don’t ever give up!

lol, no reason to live because you don’t have friends?
Life without friends might be more difficult, but not impossible…

You need to know yourself, to understand who you are, in order to know what you REALLY love..

You don’t find passion. For a start let’s try and and find contentment.

Passion is an extreme emotion and can cause you to sway from happiness to depression but if you are content, you will feel better but it will last longer.

Why don’t you look for friends that are similar to you. You may be closer to the ones you know for a long period of time, but maybe they are there just for a time in your life, maybe they are holding you back from moving forward. It may be time to go search for other people. Im not saying to stop being with the friends you have, if you care for them then you should stay with them, but you should go search for other people that have similar intentions that you have.

Ask your friends what they think of themselves. You may find that they feel the same about themselves.

Do you like games? Do you like any form of sports?

Well, then you need to change the way you think about yourself…

hello,

you know what sucks about low self esteem is whenever you feel a little better you talk yourself into not believing you really feel better. At least I do. I’m sorry to hear about your friend situation. I am in a very similar place. New town, no friends, little money to entertain myself, little to do. Not sure I qualify to give advice, except, if you’re in school maybe try to talk to a few class mates or join a club. I think in general joining things is lame but I know that when I transferred colleges way back when, I accidentally ended up in debate and it turned out to be my entire social center. God, that looks sad after I typed it.

And it’s right what the other comments said. Don’t be fooled into thinking that you have to have friends to get on with life. I know it can be difficult and you should still always be open to making friends but just don’t wait for people to do stuff with. Keep yourself busy going out to do things.

I used the suffer from very bad depression for years when I was younger and if i’m honest I can still have some dark days but if you keep as active as you can (maybe trying new things) people will eventually see you as someone thats very interesting with all the new experiences. It will also make you more independant and stronger.

well, you said all you do is listen to music, right? Have you ever tried playing an instrument or singing? Probably, you’ll say something along the lines of you hate your voice or have no talent or whatever. If you’ve ever heard the first Bright Eyes recordings from early to mid 90’s let me assure he couldn’t sing either.

If you have no friends as you state and nothing to do but sit and wallow why not do sit with a guitar or at a piano or with a pen and paper. Looks stupid typed like that but sometimes all you have is an inanimate object in your hands and it is better that object make noise instead of incisions.

Perhaps it might be worth seeing if there are any kinds of activities outside of school that would be worth doing. Any clubs or societies that have some social aspect to them. Even if some of them seem quite lame it can be worth checking things out just to see.

It’s always great to have friends, or someone to tell what you think…it’s also useful, as they’re a guide when we’re unstable…

Depression pulls the wool over your eyes in such a way that it will convince you that the best thing is to avoid activity of any kind - don’t be fooled by this. It can make you feel exhausted too but you should use whatever energy you get to keep doing stuff. It’s the only way to break away from it and you don’t deserve to have to have it steal your life away from you.

Does your school provide any counselling services. It would be worth asking a teacher to find out. You shouldn’t be embarressed to ask a trustworthy teacher. It can really help to talk to someone like a counsellor who can give reliable advice or even just listen when you need it.

get those batteries and the sheet music. And/or start writing what comes out of you on the keyboard. You’ll be surprised. Everyone’s voice is horrible, just keep singing. They have studies that prove singing makes people feel better.

I’m sorry to hear your mother has cancer.

Maybe you could ask your doctor if he/she knows of any people that are good to talk to when you’re depressed.

You should go back to him and see if there are any other counselors or people he would know about. My doctor is a bit useless too (you have to ask him twice about everything :-| )

I’m really sorry. It’s really late at night where i am (in Ireland) so i’m very sleepy and need to go to bed but it was really good to talk to you Ettagirl.

It’s looks like Jacob has some good advice about the music too.

Promise me that you’ll take good care of yourself. I hope things go well with your mum too.

Don’t hurt yourself. Go out and make new friends. I know that might sound hard with you self esstem issues, but this is comeing from a girl with the same issues. I tried this and it really worked for me. Find a few people that you think you would get along with, some people with you interests. Then say somthing nice to them every day. Don’t be pushy about it either. Soon you will go into more of a conversation, then you can hit it off from there. Always remember that starting is the hardest part.

First you have to believe and love yourself in order for anyone else too. Everyone feels down sometimes. I have plenty of friends but still I could feel so alone. What I think you should do is deffinently do something that makes you smile it will eventually lead to happiness. When I feel down about myself I do my nails, I dance, sing, call my family, go shopping whatever makess me feel good and it just leads you to have more confidence it gives you a boost when you already are feeling a little good. So have hope, believe in magic, watch a good movie, and smile because you deserve too. Say that to yourself when you feel down. I deserve too be happy, because being happy is a choice you make so you decide.