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Doesnt sound like your doing anything wrong, i guess its realy only something you can work out alone, or maybe with your husband? We dont know the in’s and outs of your life, so we cant assess it.
So you have feelings of restlessness, insecurity, paranoia, and like something is missing or lacking. But otherwise life is okay. So maybe it is just perfectionism to think you have to do something about those feelings … maybe taking care of what you can is the only thing to be done? dunno.
I use to feel panicky and what not when everyone in my family would leave and i would be at home with nothing to do. try finding things to do that use your brain and your hands. that may help. if you are worried a person is outside your house then try getting a security system, even if it is just to calm your nerves.
Judging by what your wrote here…
People don’t say they have a Perfect life, unless they are trying to fool themselves into really believing its true. Nothing is perfect.
perhaps your problem is that subconsciously you are picking up on the imperfection in your life, but don’t want to face them consciously. Instead you direct that anxiety toward other things and obsess about issues that are not real issues.
What you need to do is find out what is really bothering you; and put aside the anxiety you feel about people looking at you and your kids.
what about a fling with me thats whats missing lol
yeah,you are probably thinking your life is perfect but when you come across an imperfection it bothers you.try to find something that will take up your attemtion and to not be paranoid.you have a wonderful life =]
it sounds like you your not getting the excitment out of life everyone dreams for. you could feel that your ‘’trapped'’ in some sort of continuing life pattern. maybe take a long vacation to make yourself feel more complete?
“if my husbands not home im constantly panicing” perhaps you feel something is wrong with your husband not being around. Do you think he might be cheating on you? or more simply not giving you and the kids the time he should?
i know whats wrong with your life its dull that and the fact you called you child ace
hey, ace is an awesome namme
no he cant be having an affair cos shes panicing you only panic if you are having the affair
Wwhen i said I have “The Perfect life” i meant it more as thats how it would look from an outsider. JAG10 - I see your point, but a vacation unfortunatly is probubly not possible, not with the kids at school. WHATABIGNICKNAM :) Ace is his nickname, his real name is Jack, but he insisted in calling himself ace at 4 and its stuck. DA11 - Its more because, my husband is like my wall, he holds the family strong, is the most amazing husband i could wish for :) and great with the kids.
I see three possibilities here. Either you are not happy with your life the way it is (hence the ‘perfect life’ description) and feel guilty about that. Or you have some kind of anxiety issues you can confront with a psychologist. Or you cannot allow yourself to enjoy your life because you don’t think you deserve this, are doing enough, et cetera.
If it’s the first, find out what you would like to do and aren’t doing now.
If it’s the second, get professional help and take one step at the time.
If it’s the third, I’m not sure what you should do. Telling you that you do deserve it, are doing enough for your children et cetera will probably not improve much for what you belief yourself. Increasing your efforts to make your life better on the other hand might be counterproductive if the issue is in your head and heart - if you feel insufficient you might feel that way forever unless you change the way you see yourself and the world. I guess I would recommend some professional help there too. By professional help I don’t necessary mean a psychologist or something, a minister or a good friend might work just as well.
From your last reply, is it possible that your admiration for your husband makes it difficult to believe in your own abilities, that you feel unable to provide safety and such for your family because he seems so much better qualified? In that case you might be having a self-esteem issue. After all, how good or bad he is at things says nothing about your abilities..
or maybe you could me missing what you and your husband had back then, or, you mayy have that same thing you had since you were younger, and thats rear for alot of couples, and you worry soo much in loosing that
jack is a great name try self defence lessons not only to help your body but your confidence take the kids have fun
pseudoniem, i think talking to a friends is a good idea, thanks.
WHATABIG…. I may have to come to you for advice before i name my next child :)
dont ask me for names im still waiting for the E to goon the end of mine
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Wwhen i said I have “The Perfect life” i meant it more as thats how it would look from an outsider.
That’s just as conceited as simply saying I have “The Perfect life.” people don’t say that unless they are trying to convince them selves of it.
Be happy with what you have :)
You feel somethings missing? Most people gte that.
You constantly check on your kids? Good, mothers should be overprotective, i’m constantly worried about my little sister.
If you have a big house, im guessing you dont have any close nabours, so if your getting panicky maybe you just feel alone, you know, Put me in a house with a few little kids in the middle of nowhere, i dont doubt i’d get a bit panicky.
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who do you think is outside? Ask your kids what more they need, the answers might be interesting.
A*bbie I suppose your right :) Im over reacting a little :) I have atchully concidered moving but the kids love it hear.
2Hazel, being a barrester my husband get a fair few threats sent his way :/ As he oftern discusses these with me they worry me, alough i know they are all mostly just hot air, and it would be hard for them to find our house.
dogs are good for security. We have a shiloh shepheard and she’s great with kids.
Mmm, yeah thats a good idea
Thanks for the advice guys, im off to bed, night night.
Maybe get a hobby so that you have something to do. And get a babysitter with a good reputation for the kids
sounds like your life is not all you think it is,not too perfect
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