guy help: I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and I’m thinking of asking him about moving in together.

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I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and I’m thinking of asking him about moving in together.

We do both have our own flats quite near eachother but it seems like perfect timing to make the move - he’s struggling to pay his rent, meaning in november he could lose his flat. We already have keys to eachothers places and spend most of our nights together. I know guys like their independecce and I am respectful of that, and I want to do it in a way which will not make him feel uncomfortable or forced into it, even though I’m fairly sure he will want to as much as I do. I just wanted to ask you guys (especially the men here!) what would be the best way to approach this?

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Pae 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Bring it up lightly in casual conversation, hinting at it. Don’t go straight to it all at once, it could be pressuring to him.

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Chickens In Deep 662 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Pardon? Me, if any chick asked me to move in wit her, id say yes, whether i knew her or not IAWTP

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*Dorien* 316 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Bring it up when you two are having an important, well not “important” but a not joking conversation, so that way it doesn’t seem like your kidding. Once you ask him, give him time to think about it. That way you aren’t putting much pressure on him. Give him the sense that even if he doesn’t want to, it won’t bother you. Even if it does. I say the quicker you ask him, the more time it gives him to think about it before Nevember. You don’t wanna ask him at the end of October, then he says yes not because he wants to, but because he looses his flat…See what im saying?

If you two love each other so much, it shouldn’t be a big problem.

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*Dorien* 316 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Empress Rooster wrote:
Pardon? Me, if any chick asked me to move in wit her, id say yes, whether i knew her or not IAWTP

Chickens… >.> That doesn’t help.

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Pae 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Empress Rooster wrote:
Pardon? Me, if any chick asked me to move in wit her, id say yes, whether i knew her or not IAWTP

Man, not me. Lol.

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Chickens In Deep 662 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

Pardon? Sorry, gonna be serious now IAWTP

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*Dorien* 316 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Empress Rooster wrote:
Pardon? Sorry, gonna be serious now IAWTP

I’m sorry, i’m really starting to lose patience with you, but i’m going to keep it to myself. You do realize your not funny right?

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Chickens In Deep 662 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (32 minutes after post)

Joy♫ wrote:

Empress Rooster wrote:
Pardon? Sorry, gonna be serious now IAWTP

I’m sorry, i’m really starting to lose patience with you, but i’m going to keep it to myself. You do realize your not funny right?

Pardon? I’m not trying to be funny IAWTP

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*Dorien* 316 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (35 minutes after post)

Empress Rooster wrote:

Joy♫ wrote:

Empress Rooster wrote:
Pardon? Sorry, gonna be serious now IAWTP

I’m sorry, i’m really starting to lose patience with you, but i’m going to keep it to myself. You do realize your not funny right?

Pardon? I’m not trying to be funny IAWTP

Don’t push it.

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Chickens In Deep 662 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (35 minutes after post)

F this! I’m outta here!

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Unknown User 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (50 minutes after post)

Find a new, bigger apartment for the pair of you. You’ll appreciate the extra space and, in the long run, it’s probably healthier to start things anew, rather than asking somebody play the role of permanent house guest.

The5509 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

Do something very forward and romantic and after it, bring it up with a smile. :]

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TriumphAlice 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 days, 15 hours after post)

Do a trial period and stay with one another at each flat for a week. If you can handle one another’s routine, then you can handle moving in together. Work out a set plan on dividing bills and also days apart. I’ve been living with my boyfriend for about two years and it’s nice to have a set time when we go do something without the other.

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