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Help me help my friend.

I’m a guy who always tries to help all my friends with any problems they have. But right now I can’t think of a solution. I have this friend thats a girl who’s been through 3 or 4 rough relationships. She has this problem with leading guys on without really noticing it then when she finally does notice she tells them she justs wants to be friends and they can’t really handle it so start hating her. These guys get mean and spread all sorts of rumors while turning all their friends against her too. Now she’s lost all faith in having another relationship. So she hides her true self and acts differently around guys in a bunch of ways. I try to convince her that these guys just aren’t right for her but she refuses to agree. Now I don’t know what to tell her to get her back in the game.

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butterflyplum offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (21 minutes after post)

She needs time to build her confidence back up, I think the best thing you can do right now is help her with that. Maybe she’s not ready for another relationship right now.

Also she shouldn’t let what other people say about her bother her, and anyone that believes something that comes from anyone elses mouth, other than her own, probably isn’t that great of a friend of hers.

You’re great for helping her through this. :)

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3 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Thanks, and that was my first thought too. But what bothers me is she’s hiding who she really is from people. So she’s not having as much fun by being herself. And she tries to tell me it doesn’t bother her what those guys say, but I can tell and see that it hurts her so much. She doesn’t believe it, but other people do and she starts to feel kind of lonely.

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