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hey you, well, you aren’t doing anything wrong!!! honestly. You shouldn’t have to force yourself to do something that you feel uncomfortable doing. IF you choose not to have friends because they don’t fufill a need within you for whatever reason, that’s not a fault, and don’t think that there’s anything wrong within you.

Your worth is not measured by how many friends you have it is measured by your heart and what you have in you to give, unconditionally.

I understand what you are going through, believe me I do…and maybe you would be good at volunteering for your local crisis line??? You have to do in house training, but other than that, this is something you can do from your home, and interact with others, and feel like you are making a difference while NOT compromising yourself and morals just to feel like you belong.

Your circumstance right now sounds like it may be dictating what is brought into your life. I know myself, living out in the country is peaceful, but oh I’d just love to giggle till my eyes water and cheeks hurt with a dear girlfriend. It’s a luxury I haven’t had in a long time, and I’m not sure if I ever will again… I am learning to accept the things I can’t change. My surroundings dictate who comes into my life… so does the economy, can’t go and meet friends if you have enough gas to get to a function, but not enough to get home… these are times we live in…

Hang in there… but the help mod is right. What are you willing to put up with? What are you willing to do to meet others? Okay so money is an issue, is there ANYTHING that you can do on the side with a minimal start up cost? What about selling Avon, or something else that doesn’t cost money to start up?
Do you go to church? What about talking to the pastor or looking at the church functions and seeing if there isn’t any way you can contribute or perhaps hold a bible study in your home? Even if you don’t go to a church, this is something you can advertise for… this is a good way to meet people. It may take a few tries before people begin to come regularily, but at least you will be attracting like minded individuals and people that feed your spirit, not bring it down.

Would you be willing to perhaps take in a child for babysitting? That may be a good way for you to force yourself to get out into the community? Could you join a co-op and trade services such as babysitting/ clean up service, /house sitting services for say a dance lesson, pottery lesson, art lesson?
What about posting flyers for pet sitting in your area, or professional dog walking in your area? Do you have a vehicle? You may even offer yourself up to do arrands for those who can’t. It is a lot of driving, but you can earn abit of extra money that way…
IF you are able to drive, would you be willing to take a bus driving course? I know here in Canda that training is free and you can work your own hours… so it may work with an existing part time job you may already have…

These things just take time. You are in an area that maybe you feel stuck in a rut, but you won’t always be in this postion forever. Trust in delays and rely on God to see you through and bring people into your life that will compliment you and you them. May you be blessed with loving friends and sincere hearts that will bring honor and respect to you and your friendship. May God place people in your path that you can recognize truth and authenticity in them and be confident and secure enough to establish the healing waters of friendship in your days to come! I pray that God shows you the right people He wants for you and I pray that God opens your heart to new and brighter blessings for your present and future! In Jesus Name, Amen.