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GIRL PROBLEMS please help! :( All right, I need advice. This girl and I have been friends for a year or more and I’ve never been attracted to her because she is younger than me (2 years). I met her because she was a friend of mine’s girl friend and they broke up over 6 months ago. Well recently I started hanging out with her, talking to her and partying with her and I really felt a connection with this girl mentally and physically. One drunk night we kissed and I just shrugged it off thinking it was just in the heat of the moment but then days later, when we were hanging out, sober, and kissed / more than friendly contact I knew she could really like me so this is where I started getting happy about everything. Many weeks passed of good times together and I finally asked her if she liked me more than a friend, her answer was good but horrible. She said she did like me but she could never date me because she is still attached to her EX and she can’t see herself ever being distant from him and if we ever became a couple her relationship with him would end. So, no decision is really reached and I plan to talk to her in person about it so I let it go. The next time we are together it is at a party and we both get wasted and talk about it once again, coming to the conclusion that we like each other but I still come second and that is how it will always be. Later on we end up hooking up for like 3+ hours doing everything under the sun with each other sexually. I was the 2nd guy she had ever been with and her my 3rd. No condom was used and she was into it as much if not more than me. About a week has passed and we have talked a little bit online but it doesn’t seem the same. I really like this girl and would love her to be in my life but I realize I cannot obsess over her and I might have to just stop liking her but I just cannot do it every time I think about her I get happy and sad at the same time. Could anyone please shed a second look/opinion on the situation. The two choices I think I have are: (1) Try to avoid seeing / thinking about her and eventually I will get over her and find someone else. (2) Continue to stay in contact and try to make it a strictly friends relationship, hoping one day she will realize that her ex is no good for her.

GIRL PROBLEMS please help! :( All right, I need advice. This girl and I have been friends for a year or more and I’ve never been attracted to her because she is younger than me (2 years). I met her because she was a friend of mine’s girl friend and they broke up over 6 months ago.

Well recently I started hanging out with her, talking to her and partying with her and I really felt a connection with this girl mentally and physically. One drunk night we kissed and I just shrugged it off thinking it was just in the heat of the moment but then days later, when we were hanging out, sober, and kissed / more than friendly contact I knew she could really like me so this is where I started getting happy about everything. Many weeks passed of good times together and I finally asked her if she liked me more than a friend, her answer was good but horrible.

She said she did like me but she could never date me because she is still attached to her EX and she can’t see herself ever being distant from him and if we ever became a couple her relationship with him would end. So, no decision is really reached and I plan to talk to her in person about it so I let it go. The next time we are together it is at a party and we both get wasted and talk about it once again, coming to the conclusion that we like each other but I still come second and that is how it will always be. Later on we end up hooking up for like 3+ hours doing everything under the sun with each other sexually. I was the 2nd guy she had ever been with and her my 3rd. About a week has passed and we have talked a little bit online but it doesn’t seem the same. I really like this girl and would love her to be in my life but I realize I cannot obsess over her and I might have to just stop liking her but I just cannot do it every time I think about her I get happy and sad at the same time.

Could anyone please shed a second look/opinion on the situation. The two choices I think I have are: (1) Try to avoid seeing / thinking about her and eventually I will get over her and find someone else. (2) Continue to stay in contact and try to make it a strictly friends relationship, hoping one day she will realize that her ex is no good for her.

GIRL PROBLEM (I’m a guy) please help! :( All right, I need advice. This girl and I have been friends for a year or more and I’ve never been attracted to her because she is younger than me (2 years). I met her because she was a friend of mine’s girl friend and they broke up over 6 months ago.

Well recently I started hanging out with her, talking to her and partying with her and I really felt a connection with this girl mentally and physically. One drunk night we kissed and I just shrugged it off thinking it was just in the heat of the moment but then days later, when we were hanging out, sober, and kissed / more than friendly contact I knew she could really like me so this is where I started getting happy about everything. Many weeks passed of good times together and I finally asked her if she liked me more than a friend, her answer was good but horrible.

She said she did like me but she could never date me because she is still attached to her EX and she can’t see herself ever being distant from him and if we ever became a couple her relationship with him would end. So, no decision is really reached and I plan to talk to her in person about it so I let it go. The next time we are together it is at a party and we both get wasted and talk about it once again, coming to the conclusion that we like each other but I still come second and that is how it will always be. Later on we end up hooking up for like 3+ hours doing everything under the sun with each other sexually. I was the 2nd guy she had ever been with and her my 3rd. About a week has passed and we have talked a little bit online but it doesn’t seem the same. I really like this girl and would love her to be in my life but I realize I cannot obsess over her and I might have to just stop liking her but I just cannot do it every time I think about her I get happy and sad at the same time.

Could anyone please shed a second look/opinion on the situation. The two choices I think I have are: (1) Try to avoid seeing / thinking about her and eventually I will get over her and find someone else. (2) Continue to stay in contact and try to make it a strictly friends relationship, hoping one day she will realize that her ex is no good for her.