It depends really, he might just have a bad memory, although I can’t say I’d forget the name of someone I liked, but I am a big over-thinker and I remember way too much.
It could well be his way of saying ‘I like you, but I’m not going to be totally blatant about it’. Or he could have been joking to see your reaction. He could also be trying to make you jealous so that you make the first move.
Thanks for your reply… I don’t know, the way he said it didn’t seem like an outright joke, if you know what I mean? He had to stop and think and then finally said it and laughed. I asked if he was feeling alright jokingly. Don’t know what it means. Do you think it was just harmless when put into context, or is it something else?
It could well be a harmless joke, like I said he could be trying to make you a tad jealous to see if you like him back or if he should focus his time on the new girl. It’s good to talk about these things, but try not to overthink small gestures. I’m not one to talk though, I do nothing but overthink small gestures of the girl I like. I even read some psychology books just to learn about these things =S Some of us are just helpless overthinkers when it comes to this sort of thing =)
Good luck and keep me posted about how this situation develops. A big problem with us guys is that we often have crazy ideas of what would make a girl want us, when in fact the girl thinks ‘OMG he hates me’. It’s a mad world =P
I dunno really.. Some guys act flirty always and to everyone.. And u have only known him for nearly 2 weeks.. Give it some more time and learn him to know much better.. And dont worry too much about the blond girl - there is other girls than just the girls he work with - If u worry about the blond girl then u have to about all the other girls too.. So try not to.. Be urself, give it a little more time and flirt a bit with him ;)
Thanks again for replying you guys…
daretodream: I know, I overthink EVERYTHING when I like someone :P I could just be making this out to be a huge significant issue when he could have just had a slip of the memory, but like you said, you wouldn’t really forget the name of someone you like would you! I guess it might have been a joke. I don’t know, I was kind of taken aback when he couldn’t point my name… I was like, what the hell? lol. But tried to be funny about it. How should I act when I see him again on Friday? If he is indeed trying to get me to make the first move, should I joke with him too or be obvious about my feelings for him? Argh I don’t know!
Adrenaline: Yeah I know. He may be one of ‘those guys’. I guess I might be being a bit impatient about it. And I’m trying not to be so insecure about myself because of this new girl. I tend to get really jealous quickly and it is a bad thing” Anyway, I guess I’ll just ride it out and see what happens, or should I try and push things a bit?
Give him a bit of jealousy back, check to see if it’s a bit of a game. If you haven’t already commented on it, ask him ‘Oh yeah, what was your Bebo page again?’ He may be taken aback that you ‘forgot’ and that may make him go a little further too, in which case, it’s his turn for the next move =P
Ah yes, playing the game… I guess I could do that. I mean, since you’re a guy and all, and if you were in this situation, would that kind of game playing work? How could I make him really want to make the first move? I know people say that you should be flirty with other people, and I could be because Iwork with other guys too, but I’m not sure if this would make him feel like I’m not interested and he’d go after the ‘new girl’ or he would want to pursue me more… who knows.
Well, some guys will expect the girls to do all the chasing and will just kick back and be lazy about it, but this guy seems like he’s kinda playful, so be playful back, but also ask him a few serious things. Make him know that you aren’t just a joker and that you see him as someone you can look to. Try not to come across with alot of problems or else he may be put off by it and think he is going into the friend zone.
Another good point about asking him a serious question is that you’ll build a kind of trust with him, even if it’s just a slight one, which means you have an instant advantage above the new girl should she ever start to seem like an option to him. =)
i never asked out a girl befor, im to shy, i just flirt till they ask if we r going out, assk him if he wants to go to the movies, say “i want to see this movie really bad but no one will go wit me and i dont wana b the only one in the movie alone” that not asking him out drop sum hints, not all guy pick up right away remember that cuz i never do lol
and the freind zone suck :)
Okay, thanks for the continuing advice people :D I don’t think I’ve come across as someone with a lot of problems… we mostly just talk litely about things, so I’ll keep that in mind. What kind of serious question would I ask if I was going to?
yea I never ask either, part shy-ness and part got turned down one to many times.
forgetting your name isnt a big deal, it feels like it is because its happened to me and I felt stupid, but at the same time theres been a few beautiful women around me and I forgot their names somehow so **** happens lol.
Workplace romances are best avoided. Ninety-percent do not work out, and there is the resulting tension when you must continue working together.
I know what you’re saying, but I am only working there temporarily until I start Uni so I don’t really count this as a workplace relationship.
I wouldn’t be thinking of it in “relationship” terms at all at this stage - don’t count your chickens before they hatch. You could just forget all the games and ask him out for a drink after work one evening - the direct method’s often the best when it comes to these things.
Yeah I know, I’m not counting chickens :) Just clarifying to the poster above me. I could just forget all the games but, I can’t… because, I guess I’m too shy/nervous/fearful that I’ll be rejected. We’re both 18. I mean, I know I’m not confident enough yet to straight out ask him. If I could I would. Trust me. :) I’m just going to do as I’m doing now and see how things go. I don’t need him, and I’m not desperate or anything, just hopeful I guess.
Well then I hope it works out for you :) good luck!
Thanks :) Sometimes I wish I was asexual though. I mean really.
Heh, it’d make life a lot simpler, but it’d be nowhere near as much fun!
I do see your point sometimes though - it’d be nice if there was just a switch for these things
Right! Out of interest, you said you were starting uni, which I’m guessing means you’re moving away in about a month. What happens if you’re together with this bloke then?
I’m going to Uni in the same city, so I’d still be relatively close by.
he is playing the field, if you want fun go for it but if you know you cant committ to just that then let it be. Work is not the place to meet, greet and sleep someone gets hurt.
Looking at your picture I can understand why lol
lol What is that supposed to mean? :O
By the way I saw him again today and I witnessed him flirting with not just the new girl (who by the way I just found out is 23 and engaged) but with other people who work at the store. I sort of realised I guess, that he is a serial flirter and that I probably wasn’t recieving special treatement afterall. I still like him but after today and after thinking about him tirelessly he doesn’t appeal to me that much anymore. That said if he asked me out I’d say yes because he’s a funny and good looking guy. So I guess, that’s the end of this saga.
Just that you look so angry lol :-)
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