friends help: My best friend’s boyfriend does not like me. - Help.com

why dont you like each other?

and you could always look on the brighter side, its better for him to not like you then to be flirting/trying to get with you while hes with your friend.

That’s true! It’s nice to have someone provide an outside perspective! Thanks!
I don’t care for him terribly b/c I feel he’s not as great as she makes him out to be. He was engaged last summer, broke it off and kept her around while he got over it. Plus, they were at a wedding together a couple/few years ago, he was with his fiance and EVERYONE says he was inapporpiately flirting with her while he was with her fiance. He took an entire year to say “I love you”. And just from my own personal experience, he’s not all that intelligent. A terrible conversationalist. I mean, fine if he makes her happy, I can overlook that part, it just sort of adds in when I consider everything else.

doesnt matter what her bf thinks, ur best friend still loves u…maybe she should tell him ur good points and change his mind. if not, dont worry bout it, he shouldnt even judge u for ur personal mistakes.

Its a lot of here say it seems to be. You don’t like him from the things other people have seen and he doesn’t like you because of the things he’s heard you have done.
You haven’t really given eachother a chance to get to know one another without being judgmental about both of your pasts. It’s clearly none of his business that you cheated and at the same time it’s none of your business how he was acting at a wedding.
I know you are looking out for your best friend and you don’t want to lose her but unless both him and you are willing to get to know eachother better without any more here say, I’d say it’s not going to get easier.

I think time will mend this, one way or the other. Keep seeing your best friend on your own, and don’t expect her boyfriend to change his mind about you overnight.

If he indeed stays in your friend’s life, though, he is apt to get to know you better over the long run, and when he sees what a loyal and loving friend you are, you will likely wiggle your way into his heart.

Similarly, if your relationship with your fiance progresses, the image of how good the two of you are together will slowly replace his negative first impression.

In other words, take your time, and be good. ;-) As they used to say, slow and steady wins the race.

Good luck!

[quote LOVERSY]I KNOW WHAT IT IS, HE THINKS YOU WILL MAKE HIS GIRL CHEAT TRUST ME THATS WHAT HE THINKS/quote]

that is actually a really good point, people do jump to conclusions like that i’ve done it myself, but in reality just because your best friend is a cheater, doesnt always mean you will be.

for example my best friend is a cheater/player, but im exactly opposite, however, I know some people follow others and have been told it isnt a big deal to cheat by their friends so they do.

I just can’t thank you all enough for your responses. They have been most helpful. It makes sense that he might fear her fidelity, I’ve heard that logic before and have completely forgetten about that.

This really gives me hope for a more pleasant future together, should she decide to stay with him I guess.

I’ll try to remain patient and hope that someday our relationship will improve some. Or really even get started for that matter. It’s true, we have not been given many opportunites to really get to know each other yet, not on any sort of deeper level.

Thanks so much everyone!

no problem, glad i could help out xx