Year help: I`m 30 years old and I just lost my boyfriend in a car accident.He - Help.com

Time is the greatest healer, and ur loss is not small.. it will take time to put it behind u. Accept that and work towards the closure u need. Being strong is a choice that u will have to make, for the sake of ur kids. And with time, life will be back to normal. You should share as much as u can, with friends, or even here with us. It’ll make u feel lighter, to get the sadness out. But at the same time, take up an activity. LEarn something. Focusing ur energy on something productive will keep u going. Its all abt channeling ur energy, make a conscious effort to move on and u will, with time.

im truley sorry love you must be going through so much heartache! its best you speak like this instead of face to face otherwise i would cry too.
when did this accident happen?

It happen august 26.He was come back home after work.Ilove him so much.We`ve been together for ten years

how are your daughters coping?

sorry for my english I don`t understand “coping”

coping=how are they dealing with the situation

they are great and the most marvellous girls in the world but I think that never again is a too big thing for them

have you had councilling?

one time and we will be refer to specialized people and may be separately cause it`s hard for people to have us all at the same time

ywbb.com It’s for young widows and knowing that there are other people out there like you helps. You can just read other peoples stories, or share you’re own. a lot of those women know EXACTLY what you’re going through. Like those days when you forget it’s real, or when you feel guilty about not going back to work, or that maybe you’re not strong enough. This is you’re time to be selfish. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says. You have to do what feels right. Have someone to talk to, because those feeling can not be bottled up. Be mad. Hate God. Be Sad. Cry all day. Ignore the stupid comments about how he’s in a better place. It will get better, but feel how you need to.

I have to leave for now my kids are coming bak from school.Thank for all your good words .That help me go trough the day and I will read you later.

Natou, Im so sorry for your loss,everyone that loses someone has to go through the grieving process,there will be tears, anger, confusion and all the “whys” that come with it, Ive been there, thankfully no kids involved. I know its an old cliche but time is the great healer, you’ll never forget because hes in the faces of your children,but celebrate his life, remember the good and happy times with him,one day a natou there will come acceptance. When acceptance comes you will give yourself permission to go on with life and find happiness again.
You’ll often feel his presence sometimes something for some unknown reason will happen and you’ll feel comforted by it, some people say get rid of the memories, clothing, belongings and such but I think we need to keep something of them especially when there are little ones involved. Hold on to the memories Natou they can be so precious. xx

thank you Sasha but he is more than a memorie he`s a part of me.

Use that love to keep yourself strong :)

I know this is devestating and hard, but you have to be there for your kids now. Your kids need you more than anyone. Please carry on and be as strong as you can for them.

But remember, grown ups need some ‘out’ time too! Arrange a babysitter and spend a night with a friend watching movies or just talking. Or go stay with your parents maybe for one night?

You may have lost his physical being, but he is and always will be part of you. His strength and wisdom and love are still there with you.

You need to grieve, be angry, cry and feel the pain of the lose. But in the mist of it, knowing and appreciating the beauty of what you had and still have will help you through.

You and the girls need to keep talking and crying together. Don’t keep it in or let them hold in the pain. Talking and letting it out will help. And always in the mist of it stop and be thankful for what you had and still have.