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How can you tell if somebody is enjoying a conversation or is just being polite?

How do you know if somebody actually wants to be talking, or is just putting up with it? Are there certain signs, the way they talk, body language or other methods to identify if they’re really interested? Are there ways of seeing if they aren’t interested? How can you tell?

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

The obvious signs is if they don’t seem that interested and are looking around the room for and exit or someone else to talk.

If they are interested, they will probably look at you intently and will look like they are listening to every word. They will make some comment, oh noise to let you know they understand. They might lean towards you to hear easier, especially if you are in a loud room. If they don’t understand, they will ask you to clarify a point, rather than just allow you to continue.

They will basically face you and give you their full attention.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (13 minutes after post)

If they are not maintaining eye contact with you, not engaging in the conversation with you, they are focusing on other things like their cell phone, then they are not interested in what you have to say.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Usually a person who isn’t listening will become slightly distant to you. They will not be able to follow a conversation properly, because they weren’t listening in the first place or not all the time.

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Grand Rapids, MI, US | 3 months ago (5 hours, 40 minutes after post)

http://www.cepis.ops-oms.org/tutorial… this might be of interest….

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (4 days, 1 hour after post)

I don
t look at people in the eyes when I AM listening to them… Maybe I’m just weird.

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