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first bad idea getting people to spy on her
thatll make her seem like she is scared to do anything because peope will be watching her
second its time you talk to her
see what is really going on, you cant do anything resh until you see her, see the scratches or if it gets tot he point where u r afraid for her life.
talk to her tomorrow ro even tonight ASAP
see how bad the situation is and if it seems rash then call her parents, tell a teacher or ven a guidence counsler at school. your schol probably has a support team she’ll be able to join thatl help her. but dont be afraid to confront her cutting is a way of getting attention, thats what people do it for so somone might notice them and because it feels better emotionaly when physical pain takes over. call her and see whats up and depending on the situations hould depnd on what u do if ur not sure then let us know here and we’ll give u r opinions.
good luck

i had a friend back in high school who cut herself and my friend and i were the only ones who really knew. we tried talking to her about and just denied that she was doing it, when the evidence was clear. we tried talking to her many times and finally decided we needed to do something more. we talked to our school counselors and they tried talking to her, but that made her mad at us and she continued to cut. so we decided to call her mom. while we were talking to her mom she was on the phone listening and none the less was really pissed that we were talking to her mom about it. but we knew no matter how mad she got at us, we had to do something. she stopped talking to us for a while, and eventually just kinda went back to normal, like the whole thing never happened and she stopped cutting. just recently though i got a random message from her, years later after the situation, she thanked me for being so persistent with getting her to stop cutting herself. so i guess the moral of the story is to talk to her, a counselor, her parents, it doesnt matter. she may stop talking to you or say she hates you, but later on she will thank you. just dont give up, no matter how much she tell you to just leave it alone.

The post above is good advice, its probably right, but at the same time maybe not what should be done, my own experiance says you should leave it a while… When I was cutting I would have felt betrayed if my friends had seen guidence about it… Three of them were pretty worried, and would discuss it amongst themselves, asking my other friends about it when I wasn’t around, which of course, got back to me, and I hated them for talking about it. I know they were just worried but going behind my back to my friends was the worse thing they could have done to me. What happened with me makes me want to say wait until she approaches one of you, I went to one of my friends, but it took a month… If you go ahead and speak to guidence I really really won’t pester her about it if shes upset by it, which I think she will be. Just remember that to save her that way, you might have to lose her, be willing to take that risk. I think she will thank you later though. I’m grateful to the guys who got me off cutting, but they were friends I’d told myself. Good luck.

your friend probably need to talk about that but it could be hard for her cause she may think that people find her crazy or anormal you should talk to her and listen to her she is probably too shame to talk by her self so try to invite her and help her to talk I think it is the first step she need to take

She might just need to talk to someone