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Being yourself, and being confident about it…

Ya, I’m the same way and let me tell you, just saying “be yourself” doesn’t really help. Sorry.

yeah i’m really shy and every time i try to be funny or something i feel like everyone is looking at me like i’m some kind of idiot :(

:kay: wrote:
Ya, I’m the same way and let me tell you, just saying “be yourself” doesn’t really help. Sorry.

Because you aren’t doing it…
lol
It always works…believe me, I’ve never seen someone with more experience on the subject than me….

alcove198 wrote:
yeah i’m really shy and every time i try to be funny or something i feel like everyone is looking at me like i’m some kind of idiot :(

Again….relax, be yourself….

Hi tay_br! To thine own self be true, my friend. It’s ok if you are not outgoing, and it’s ok if you are. I don’t think I’ve ever had a shy moment in my life, but I have had many friends who were painfully shy. Keep trying, honey, and relax with yourself. We have all had the common experience of falling on our faces! Please remember, even when we fall on our faces, we are still moving forward!! ;) -Cynthia

Confidence is a state of mind. Anyone can be confident, its just releasing the fear of allowing people to see the real you that inhibits people from opening up. I used to be shy, but I worked on it and now I like to think of myself as being a confident person. If I didn’t know somebody well I couldn’t relax and ‘be myself’ around them. I don’t know why I did this but I couldn’t just go up to someone I didn’t know and strike up a conversation. A lot of people say just ‘be yourself’ and I know what they mean… in some ways its hald true… I have to say it takes a conscience effort to project confidence if you are a naturally shy person!! Posture has a lot to do with it. Confident people always have an upright posture, a domineering but welcoming posture, whereas shy people tend to hide behind body parts (like arms for example, closed arms). Looking at people directly when you talk to them is a sign of confidence. It shows your open and honest and are able to meet a person directly, and it comes off as being interested in said person. Smiling, complimenting, asking questions. All signs of confidence. Taking pride in your appearance is important too. Don’t hide your face behind bangs and cakey make up. Look effortlessly good, and not only will it make you feel good but others will notice it too. If you can’t think of something interesting to say just ask questions. I find it helps a lot to get a conversation flowing. Not only are questions easy to ask (like “Are you from around here?” or “I like your shirt, where did you get it?”) but they also make the person you’re talking to feel good because they will like the fact that you are interested in them and they will in turn reciprocate.

Now, if its confidence relating to dating, I can’t give you advice here. I’m still VERY shy around guys I like and I am still trying to be more confident in these situations!

For me, as a guy, I was very shy when I was younger. I missed out on a lot of opportunities, because of my shyness. So I tried to be more outgoing. I became more outgoing by just going with the flow… Just try to accept others personalities and it will make it easier for them to accept you. Another thing that it appears that others have touched upon is, be confident. It gives you personality. Something that gives me confidence is exercise; find something that gives you that and you will be fine.

be urself