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if it makes you feel beter you can think wow i look better then this random guy on the internet

I kinda was like that…
But believe me, what ppl want to see, is someone with confidence in him…someone strong, and that trust and knows himself…

well, i don’t remember who, but some1 here once said that you can only be ugly if your face it’s been hacked by a psyco killer or if it looks like it’s been melted by lava.. lol and I fully agree.

It’s not that you are really ugly, this world has lots of different ppl, and I’d say that maybe 97% of them can and do find hapiness.. it’s just a matter of time.

If u were born a gorgeous person maybe u’d be different, because they get soo much attention that sometimes they get too spoiled by ppl, also it’s harder for them to find true love because ppl r normally only attracted by their looks, and then they feel pressure to always look ’stunning’ to please other ppl, so it’s all relative..

Also, all the hurt u r feeling, it shapes your personality, it makes you who you are, you need pain in life to become a better person, we all do… the ppl who have been hurt the most are normally the most compassionate.

Maybe it’s just a bit hard for u to socialize and all because you are afraid of rejection, and that stops you from trying to go out there and just have fun.. maybe you just need to go out more, be more active, join clubs or young ppl in any field that could interest you, or learn some martial arts, or go to a gym, get a pet to take out.. stuff like that, just be more active..

Besides take a good look at yourself in the mirror, that’s who you are going to be with for the rest of your life, and that’s pretty good, because you have the legacy of your parents, and your grandparents, i mean, you are probably the product of a lot of work and struggle of lovely ppl.. you have to be proud of who you are.. maybe change what you can, maybe the way you dress, the way your hair is, but do it to please YOURSELF, do what YOU want to do, look how YOU want to look, maybe try different styles and take pictures of yourself, and find what makes you happy.. just keep trying..

When u become more mature you’ll see all these times behind and you’ll see yourself happy, with a family and all.. in the end you will ALWAYS make it, just be comfortable in your own skin, **** everyone else and their opinion.. the opinion of the ppl you really love and trust is the one that matters, the rest of the ppl are irrelevant.

Good luck!

You are beautiful. Why? Because you are unique from anyone one else in this world and you need to find what you think is beautiful about yourself. What makes you beautiful?

You don’t want someone who is only attracted to you for your looks…the whole package is what is truly important.

I know how you feel. I feel the same way. I’m very insecure about how I look. But I try every day to make myself feel good in some way. Trust me, a lot of people don’t know what I go through every day to look acceptable. Most don’t know that I have to comb over my hair because I have bald spots and a visible scalp. I could be all depressed about this, but I choose not to be. Its all down to a choice between positive and negative thinking, yeah? We all have our good days and bad days. Accept and embrace who you are! Its the most important thing :)

youre not ugly! youll find someone one day who will love you and not care how you look. its whats on the inside that really counts. i believe taht everyone is beautiful in their own ways! you dont have to be good looking on the outside to be a beautiful person.

You don’t need someone else to make you feel attractive, you need the confidence in yourself to know that you are.

miss_enigma wrote:
You don’t need someone else to make you feel attractive, you need the confidence in yourself to know that you are.

EXACTLY! you worded my thoughts perfectly lol

Queen Angel wrote:
youre not ugly! youll find someone one day who will love you and not care how you look. its whats on the inside that really counts. i believe taht everyone is beautiful in their own ways! you dont have to be good looking on the outside to be a beautiful person.

realy **** i need to be buetiful on the inside to **** come on im neither =[ someday ill get something right

Animal i have become wrote:

Queen Angel wrote:
youre not ugly! youll find someone one day who will love you and not care how you look. its whats on the inside that really counts. i believe taht everyone is beautiful in their own ways! you dont have to be good looking on the outside to be a beautiful person.

realy **** i need to be buetiful on the inside to **** come on im neither =[ someday ill get something right

hey! dont say that! youre both! everyone just has a different view of themselves than other people do of them.

do you follow me every were?

every girl can be pretty if she tries hard enough. I’ve been convinced of that as I’ve watched girl after girl become beautiful overnight. you see, unlike boys, we have a special advantage. Makeup! ^_^ try it, it works WONDERS!

im a guy =[ (sobs)

you dont’ NEED makeup, judging by your picture :)
your’e gonna be a hottie when you’re older, man
you might even be a hottie already to people your age!

Animal i have become wrote:
im a guy =[ (sobs)

I think you are a handsome fella, you are young and yet to grow into yourself. Your eyes look really sad in that picture though. Some gal will come along and just think you are fanfreakingtastic..just you wait!

Queen Angel wrote:

miss_enigma wrote:
You don’t need someone else to make you feel attractive, you need the confidence in yourself to know that you are.

EXACTLY! you worded my thoughts perfectly lol

That’s cuz I’m psycho..err..psychic lol

Animal i have become wrote:
do you follow me every were?

are you talking to me???? lol

Queen Angel wrote:

Animal i have become wrote:
do you follow me every were?

are you talking to me???? lol

hmm you just proved my point lol just kiddin

Queen Angel wrote:

Animal i have become wrote:
do you follow me every were?

are you talking to me???? lol

course he is! and course she does! I sense another help.com relationship coming on ;) ;)
lol

no shes married to king rowas rowos? i cant spell i failed 1st grade lol

Animal i have become wrote:

Queen Angel wrote:

Animal i have become wrote:
do you follow me every were?

are you talking to me???? lol

hmm you just proved my point lol just kiddin

what? im not following you :P haha i wrote somethingin this post so i get notified everytime someoen writes something lol! dont worry im no stalker!

Animal i have become wrote:
no shes married to king rowas rowos? i cant spell i failed 1st grade lol

ah so she’s the queen?! I didn’t know that’s what “queen angel” stood for! *bows to her majesty*

did you have to rub it in that i failed first grade

Animal i have become: You’re hot.

Lady Hastanonymous wrote:

Animal i have become wrote:
no shes married to king rowas rowos? i cant spell i failed 1st grade lol

ah so she’s the queen?! I didn’t know that’s what “queen angel” stood for! *bows to her majesty*

hahahha yes im the new queen :D

jackis2 wrote:
Animal i have become: You’re hot.

see! told ya!

Lady Hastanonymous wrote:

jackis2 wrote:
Animal i have become: You’re hot.

see! told ya!

me too! lol

wait i never saw that

go back and read, man!

sorry i fialed 3nd and 5th grade to

well sheesh how many grades did you fail?!

all of them atleast 2ce

i enjoy seeing the teachers agian

Animal i have become wrote:
all of them atleast 2ce

what grade are you working on now?

Well you certainly type good for a guy who can’t read. That’s a gift man, a gift.

Animal i have become wrote:
i enjoy seeing the teachers agian

lol

i enjoy not working with people my age i like to feel tall

Animal i have become wrote:
i enjoy not working with people my age i like to feel tall

lol i wish i could feel tall :( haha im a shortie lol

thats the suces to being tall hang out wiht people half your age

me too! I’m only 5′4″ and I’m a senior! everyone that used to be shorter than me is now taller

im in gr 10 and im 5″4 but everyone else my age is soooo much taller than me haha

im in grade 2 and im like 2ce there size

im like5″5

second graders are midgjets

Animal i have become wrote:
second graders are midgjets

hahahahaha!

Queen Angel wrote:
im in gr 10 and im 5″4 but everyone else my age is soooo much taller than me haha

yeah, you’re 2 years younger and the same height. and you’re still short for your age!!!

So…what was the topic again?

but seruisly the freshmen this year in my school are like6ft tall and the seniors are like5ft3

jackis2 wrote:
So…what was the topic again?

im ugly

Animal i have become wrote:
but seruisly the freshmen this year in my school are like6ft tall and the seniors are like5ft3

jackis2 wrote:
So…what was the topic again?

im ugly

noooo you arent!!

No… but you might be a drama queen. lol

come on 3 people have said youre hot and thats just in this post!! lol

thats the name of the topic oh smart one

never mind its i feel so ugly oh boy that was a swrew up

Animal i have become wrote:
thats the name of the topic oh smart one

ohhh right. hehehehe sorry! :P

i finaly got to say oh smart one now i just need to work in captain odvious somewere and i have acomplished my life long dreams =)

Animal i have become wrote:
i finaly got to say oh smart one now i just need to work in captain odvious somewere and i have acomplished my life long dreams =)

lmao nice! :P

i dont have verry high life expectations so sofar in my life i have acomplished about 4 lives worth of dreams

Animal i have become wrote:
i dont have verry high life expectations so sofar in my life i have acomplished about 4 lives worth of dreams

wow. what have you accomplished?

ive done goemetry,done algibra made it past midle school and got an A in a class

Well,

If yu have good personaility, let it shine!!!

That is probably a rele important thing hyou should try to do. It might not seem its working at first. but the more you do it then it should make you hopefully more outgoing. you will meet people, and they will sseee in on the inside rather than the out.

try starting with a talent you might have, rather it be sports or artistic.
Tell people and show and prove how well you can do! :-)
Dont be afraid to be who you are.

Animal i have become wrote:
ive done goemetry,done algibra made it past midle school and got an A in a class

oh thats awesome! =)

would a college rather have you take a harder class and get a b or tak the average class and get an A.

i somehow feel that my last post was a little off topic

Animal i have become wrote:
i somehow feel that my last post was a little off topic

lol doesnt matter :P and uhhm im not sure.. thats a really good question atcually..

oops quoted the wrong one.. my bad

that made me lauagh

lol :P i dont think anyone is even in this post anymore… :S

Queen Angel wrote:
lol :P i dont think anyone is even in this post anymore… :S

so im a nobody? =/

Animal i have become wrote:

Queen Angel wrote:
lol :P i dont think anyone is even in this post anymore… :S

so im a nobody? =/

noooo thats not what i meant!!! i mean theres nobody here to answer your question!!

to late i already took the advanced clases

oh okay

Real love isn’t based on looks. Average looking people find love too and are often more happy in their marriages. It might help to remember that the average person looks.. well, average. Do what you can to improve your looks with good hygiene, quality (but not faddish) clothes and a confident walk.

Make the intangible qualities inside of you exceptional, and you will find exceptional love.

Whats on the inside ??? people that judge by a persons looks are shallow, you can be a Mel Gibson look alike and be a real pig, yes the first opinion is based on attraction, but when you get to know someone it comes down to a good personality and heart, if you have’nt got those then you have nothing.

if you so unhappy with the way you look maybe you should seek help, else get up go out change your appearence and become happier stop sitting in your self pitty make friends and become a better person, you are as beautiful as you feel. if you dont feel happy then others see that. if you happy with your body and accept it, then that shows. we cant all be the same if we were wouldnt it be a boring place.

~:)

Honey I am so fat and I used to think that made me ugly. And yeah I am not the prettiest but I have realized most of what makes a woman beautiful is confidence! My mom who is bigger than I am always got more compliments and its because she can walk into a room and own it! Get really dressed up and made up and go to a club and while you are there just tell yourself you are the sexiest person there and other people with believe it too! Confidence is all it takes! You are gorgeous!!!!!!

I am going to guess that you are female, but if I am wrong, follow my advice except for the makeup part.

Well, what kind of person are you inside? That is really more important than what’s outside. Some of the meanest people I have known have been very good looking.

Now about the outside. How about a makeover? Find a friend who does makeup and dresses really well and ask them to help you out. I don’t know how old you are, but some people get better looking with age.

lol i didnt bother reading what the rest of the ppl wrote , cuz thats heck alot of ppl wanna take part in helping you :)
but anyway , how old are you?
age plays major role in appearance , Read the story the ugly duckling u’ll know what i mean , I base my mind on it and it works fine :)

you know you are probably really pretty. I have noticed in my experience that many times humans just don’t say the obvious. It’s maybe in a way you yourself wouldn’t see, come on the grass is always greener. we like to glamourize a certain look but anyway I am ugly too and by model standards a bunch of people are in this world so what are you telling us that it’s hopeless for us too?

what’s inside of you that makes you great? what do you have that most don’t? find your strengths and compensate for your weaknesses or work on them one at a time. Don’t give up.

Hi Alcove-
The only ugly people I have ever met are those who were self-centered, greedy, ill-mannered and thoughtless. Please note that when ugly people are discussed, it is always because of the “inside” stuff and NEVER only about the “outside” stuff.

If you like and respect yourself on the inside, the outside will take care of itself. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder: so behold how beautiful you really are. If someone needs help, do you help them? Do you do the things you know you are supposed to do (parent’s, teacher’s, boss’ directives)? Are you courteous to others? Do you not listen to gossip? I’ll bet that you do everything listed and then some!

One more thing, my friend (and please know that I am not trying to get preachy): If God had wanted you different, He would have made you different. You are EXACTLY what He wanted. No mistakes or goofs. You were made to ’specs’, my dear! After all, God was the One who designed you!! -Cynthia

thanks for all the help guys, I’m Alcove198 but I had to change my email and stuff since then. oi. It’s good to know i’m not alone out there and that people I’ve never met care about me. I am a christian actually, but have strayed away from God. Maybe that’s part of why I’m feeling like this.

God does give you that hope and confidence in life…try going to church every once and a while if you need to.

I know me personally I dont beleive you have to go to church all the time to have the same faith as people who do…but it might be good for you and show you somthing new about yourself!
:-)

mjcatdo wrote:
God does give you that hope and confidence in life…try going to church every once and a while if you need to.

I know me personally I dont beleive you have to go to church all the time to have the same faith as people who do…but it might be good for you and show you somthing new about yourself!
:-)

yeah, I think God is doing things in my life to lead me back to church, I just don’t know if I can go to a church where I don’t know anyone.

Cali87 wrote:

mjcatdo wrote:
God does give you that hope and confidence in life…try going to church every once and a while if you need to.

I know me personally I dont beleive you have to go to church all the time to have the same faith as people who do…but it might be good for you and show you somthing new about yourself!
:-)

yeah, I think God is doing things in my life to lead me back to church, I just don’t know if I can go to a church where I don’t know anyone.

dont worry about going to a church no one knows you.
usually people are very kind in church, so you should feel comfortable after a week or two.

so did you try a church?

Well..I don’t know what you look like, and I already envy you for your writing talents. Sorry if that’s not much help..But you know, for what it’s worth..
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