marriage help: My husband and I resently had a baby boy but my husband never spends anytime with our son.

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My husband and I resently had a baby boy but my husband never spends anytime with our son.

He only comes home to eat supper than heads back out the door to do something with his buddies. I ask for his help and all he does is say, I worked all day I need a break. (His job is a 9-5 in sales!) How do I make him see what I’m doing is hard work and I need a break!?

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Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Maybe he cant stand the shift in attention the baby brought.
He’s probably not ready or he’s one of them closed minded a_holes that thinks that “caring for a baby is only a womans responsibility”.
What a man.

Have you talked to him?

kimberly_roebe #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

For awhile I was asking for help so bad it turned into nagging. I don’t want to push him away even more. I don’t know how to get through to him. He was so helpful right after our son was born when he had mat leave. I think the whole ajustment has been overwhelming for him. But we had 9 months to prepare for this. Im thinking about complaining to friends and family members and hope they can convince him to give me a hand.

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Pae 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Some people feel pressure when they have a kid. Some handle it differently than others. He might not really notice this, he might not even realize this bothers you…you should have a talk with him.

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Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

His responsibility is to be there helping you.
I dont wouldn’t call it ‘nagging’…i’d call it more like ‘telling it how it is’.

How could asking for help for your son be “pushing away”?

Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

*I wouldn’t call it ‘nagging’…i’d call it more like ‘telling it how it is’.

grammar error, my bad.

Mat6974 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (2 hours, 27 minutes after post)

my wife and I recently had a baby boy. I go to college for my PhD. from 9am-2pm, and then I work from 3pm-11pm. I miss my son very badly, but this is what had to be done. On the weekends though I do everything in my power to give my wife a break, and take care of the things she needs, but I am a rare case. Most men have a difficulty coming to grips with fatherhood at first, but with time they will gradually embrace it and things will improve, but for now patience and couple counciling are a virtue

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Mat6974 7 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

???? it looks like recently to me

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