depression help: Is it wrong? - Help.com

If you are contemplating suicide, hurting yourself, or you are seriously depressed: please, seek professional help!

Call this hotline (1-800-273-8255) operated by our friends at the
Suicide Prevention Lifeline, anytime, for free, professional, and
confidential assistance. While other Help.com users are likely to reply
to your post, please make sure you understand that your use of Help.com
falls under our TOS.

Note: I’m a robot that the Help.com staff created. If this response is in error, I apologize, please ignore it.

13.
Are you ready for a baby?

maybe you were kinda looking forward to the grownup responsibilities of being a dad

but plssss do not rush your childhood. you have the rest of your life to act grown up, you only have these years to act like a child and have fun

…can you even work?…you have a job?

You’re only 13. It should scare you and worry you because that is the rest of your life that would be committed to this child. Although if you have a skewed or optimistic view of parenthood than you could feel depressed that right now you don’t get to experience it.

Yes, it’s normal,you thought you two had made something together…BUT, consider yourself fortunate and given a 2nd chance. Protect yourselves & enjoy your youth, babies can be made when you two are at least 18…that’s 5 yrs away…even then you may not be ready. Enjoy your time together and let time heal.

Well, Its normal, if you rele care about this person and if you wanted it.

But I wouldnt think you would be ready for any such responsibility considering your age, and school and future.

Its kinda scary that your 13 and already have done it.

personally I would be scared for the whole future reason…
but if you would’ve been truly committed, then its ok.

maybe wait till ur 20 :p

Cheer up, you have the rest of your life for a kid.
and if this girl is your fiance and rele the one (sometimes its hard to tell at a young age)
then just think, you have something to look forward to in the future…like 20’s maybe? lol.
Be a kid, and have fun!

Ask your mom or the girls mother (assuming you have open communication with them), they’ll know exactly what to tell you.

Your welcome and let me tell you, you may feel sad…but believe me, and I bet your loved ones are with me on this one when I say: you are not ready.
Take it easy.

very normal

you were probably excited because that can be an emotional experience having a scare. you should look at it as a good thing because at your age you might not be able to provide for a child in a way that the child deserves. concentrating on yourself and your relationship should be your concern. with time you will realize you have your entire life ahead of you to have a fiance, and a family and right now your concerns should be more focused on how to succeed in life so that you can be happy when you reach those points.

know that you cannot provide a child a good life if it is born now, so be more careful in the future.

however, it may be that you are looking forward to the emotional attachment that comes with the baby - with the baby itself and with your fiancee. that is very normal.

a good way to tell if you’re ready for your baby is if you and you fiancee own your own place to live, between the 2 of you you have a steady income, and both you and your fiancee are secure in your love for one another and in your marraige. splitting apart can be devastating for your child.