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King Rowass wrote:
Your girl is fat? Or no? Or halfway?

“Overweight” says the doctor, but not by much. I think she’s absolutely lovely, though, she doesn’t look fat at /all/.

experience_drive wrote:
maybe she is pushing you to see if you will give up or keep fighting.

I’ve been here for four years now, and I’ve lived through two attempted suicides on her part - my actions being the only thing between her and death.

I don’t think it’s that, I’m sorry. If it is that I would be furiously angry because, I mean, come on. I’ve done absolutely everything for her.

JellyBelly wrote:
Make her feel secure about her body. Love and treasure it…consistently. Then she will feel Ok with her body around you and not bring up the “fat” issue as much….but still once in awhile, it’s a girl thing.

I would like to point out that I am a girl, and I almost never think about my body in relation to fat. I am at a healthy weight and intend to remain this way through my eating habits and exercize, but I don’t think of said eating habits and exercize as something I do for my weight but for my general health. Weight’s just a benefit.

Anyway, I would like to thank everyone for their responses and opinions thus far. I was rather angry when I wrote that, but it’s nice to see what people think about why she’s always doing this to me. Also, to clarify, she’s not arguing with me 24/7. It’s only when we’re actually in an argument, which… it’s not really rare or anything, I mean, we “argue” like any couple does about little things, it’s not really like angry or anything but just us having different opinions. But it just annoys me so much that every time I say some really long speech, or type one even, she picks out the one teeny tiny disagreeable thing out of it! It makes me feel like she’s ignoring me for the sake of argument.

Michael Leibman wrote:

Pillow wrote:
I would like to point out that I am a girl, and I almost never think about my body in relation to fat.

Then you might not even understand that standard-girl-fat-craziness issue. That does not mean it doesn’t actually exist. It actually does exist in some lives and minds.

While I understand what you are saying, I am objecting to the fact that apparently it is standard and normal to be obsessed about one’s weight, to the point where it apparently is causing stress and psychological harm to women specifically on a daily basis.

I think that is a horrible mindset, and regardless of truth we should be trying to change it. I’ve seen too many girls thinking that way because they think it’s normal and acceptable.

It’s disgusting.

Anyway, I did understand what you meant.