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Sometimes it’s true that you don’t get over what happened in the past but you do move on. If you stay stuck in the past then your life cannot progress further. In fact all that you have experienced in the past was meant to help you develop for the future. You should learn from what you been through whether good or bad and should use the knowledge to make a better future for yourself.
in the past there were always things that seemed like a future path was totaly clear from there, but then something screws up and messes up my view of that, and i always have to start all over
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I would say your past is holding your future back…
Get back into the thing you love and dont be scared you wont be as good at them as you used to and dont have the support of your old friends…
The past is something that should be used to help your future not stifel it…
iv spent literaly hours thinking them through, iv lost many night of sleep cause i was lost in those thoughts
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iv spent literaly hours thinking them through, iv lost many night of sleep cause i was lost in those thoughts
Simple thing! atleast once a day do somethng you love and focus on that thought rather than the past or plan on doing something even more exciting the next day…
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iv spent literaly hours thinking them through, iv lost many night of sleep cause i was lost in those thoughts
Simple thing! atleast once a day do somethng you love and focus on that thought rather than the past or plan on doing something even more exciting the next day…
hopefuly that would work, but then id run out of things to do, and i cant think forward, cause id have nothing to look farward to. its also sometimes the case where the past comes back and haunts me, and thats the worst part of remembering past moments
and, though they did teach me some things, they also made me sooo confused. like, im left with soo many possible answers to why, and how, but they always dumfound me the deeper i think about it, and the less i think about it, the more i want to know the real answer, thats what it seems
LOL!
the things you love doing can always be done again and you should do them again till you excel at them…
I always found learning new things… may be an instrument or simply how to make something to always be something that takes up my time and i can look forward to doing that the next day as well…
well, there are a few things i like doing, but im mostly confined to doing them. one of my favoritest thing was hanging out with my friends. unfortunately some of those friends are apart of the things i cant let go, and since i moved, i have been too busy to hang out with new friends, due to work and college, like i only have one day off a week, and i spend that day doin homework or somtin. and i spend so much time in between all of that, thinking of the past. and iv also tried doing things, like, im gettin desperate aha
the others are doin major stuff that would keep me away from the past, like traveling, or doin somtin out of the ordinary, but those things only coma around once and a while
you should take all that negativity that has happened to you and turn it the other way around. what im trying to say, use it as a motivation to do things differently and better. this is just a foundation for you. from doing this, you’ll be stronger as a person.
to start it off…just do what you love to do…like play sports, video games, hanging out with friends..etc
Looking at the fact that you are keeping yourself busy I guess all you need is a good friend to talk to…
I mean someone you can confide in, it looks like your getting depressed.
Do make sure it dosent get to you…
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you should take all that negativity that has happened to you and turn it the other way around. what im trying to say, use it as a motivation to do things differently and better. this is just a foundation for you. from doing this, you’ll be stronger as a person.to start it off…just do what you love to do…like play sports, video games, hanging out with friends..etc
I agree this may help allieviate the depression…
Just be careful no to do anything crazy!
as in, like a motivation to change for the best? i could try to do so, but id stil have to get rid of the many unanswered questions that fill my head
yet, that point of veiw would help me, thankss
is there a way to get rid of haunting unanswered questions that mean something to you?
Do keep intouch with your close friends and family if things get worse…
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is there a way to get rid of haunting unanswered questions that mean something to you?
Best way is to confide in someone you trust…
or an anonymuous person… prob with any one is they dont know u…
il make sure to do that, i wouldnt want to lose touch with them anyway
like, just to talk it over with someone?
BTW, if you talk them over with a friend thaey too may want to relive some of those experiences again…
If your lucky ull get to do something just as fun or even more..
hopefuly lol
id sometimes still be driven to search for those answers tho, or maybe i should just take them as a hard life experience, and just say that there is no right answer?or should i still keep searching for it among talking to my friends
Its worth a try talking with your friends…
That is depending if the topic is appropriate!
One thing is to try, cause if you dont you will again be stuck thinking what if I did…
true, i guess im better off figuring it out some how or id be stuck with it forever.
thankss for da helpp
when looking at the past… you have to realize that we can not change it.. we can not wish it to change or go away… but you can look at it and remember the things that we did and use it as a learning tool… so that we dont make that mistake again or how to handle a situation that may arise in the future… so that past isnt a bad thing in a way…
Sat Nam, (reverent greetings)
A lot of people deal with this very thing you describe. Forgiveness of others is required — forgiveness is not wishing things to be different — acceptance of what happened — Forgiveness it is an act of self love — forgiveness is accepting that you did the very best with what you had.
Read more about letting go of the past and why it is important in 2008 …. http://tinyurl.com/5woa39
peace to you,
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