oh my gosh!!
i am having the same issue!!!!
Living with someone is never easy…
One of the best things to do is be calm and think things over before you say them…
There is not too much to do in ths situation though.. try distancing yourself and spend more time away from home to avoid further conflict ( just a suggestion, need to know more before saying more)
Try to look past that. The bigger picture that you have to remember is that she is your friend and you two have to look at your situation from all sides to understand it and move on. See what she feels and get her to understand how you feel, and everything will be alright, just need some time to work it all out.
Neutra wrote:
Try to look past that. The bigger picture that you have to remember is that she is your friend and you two have to look at your situation from all sides to understand it and move on. See what she feels and get her to understand how you feel, and everything will be alright, just need some time to work it all out.
but like im thinking about how i need to clam down bc she is my friend and then i stop myself and think really hard and realize she was never a good friend never there 4 me like i am there 4 her… we never “hangout” like normal people in the past 2 years all we do is… nothing.. we arent friends at all
R.A.M wrote:
Living with someone is never easy…One of the best things to do is be calm and think things over before you say them…There is not too much to do in ths situation though.. try distancing yourself and spend more time away from home to avoid further conflict ( just a suggestion, need to know more before saying more)
i am an oveer thinker if i say something i mean it and it is meant for people to hear me.. i wanted her to see how upset i was so she can come and talk to me… no luck… bc she is a bad person.. but u cant judge u dont know her
Maybe you two should make some time to spend with each other to get to know each other better. Like I said, try to get her to understand how you feel. You two probably have more in common then you think. Who knows, she could be the one who comes through and helps you in a bad situation if one show up, if no one else is around to help.
Have you tried explaining things to her clearly about how you feel!
When you do this do put a spin in a positive light, dont say i want to hit you, but something like things are nto working out right now and I would like to do something bout this..
Try taking the first step and then putting the ball in her court i.e. by asking her to help sort it out ( takes a big person to do that ast times )
If she is still being negative…
Then you have to think of something more drastic… (nothing negative or hurtful but Ill leave you to decide what)
If you started out as friends , maybe its a shame to let rooming together ruin that, its the same for male and female living together sometimes it just does’nt work. Sit down together and have a good heart to heart and say you dont think rooming together is working, cut your loses and save a friendship. :-)
she has to realize in order to get respect, she needs to give it… that is your place of living too… not just hers… and she needs to respect that…
although you are angry right this second.. i suggest calming down and then talking to her… let her know what is bothering you and that you can see through her… and you are not very happy with how she is… she may be thinking that she can pull the wool over your eyes by being manipulative and not aware that you can see right through her… let her know… and she may stop trying to be that way… but of course, there are people in this world who have lived this way their whole lives and not even realize she is being that way…
communication is the key to everything… and until you talk to her.. this will never end… but again.. calm yourself down before talking to her so that there is no bad ammunition pulled out on her… just in case she is not aware herself of how she is acting..
it just hurts after 2 years of being the nicest person… iw as there when her crazy bf was being horrible… i was there when she cheated on him… i was there when seh lied to our faces about how she didnt cheat on her bf…. she has her nose in the air… she thinks she is to good to b a true friend, then i do not need her as a friend…. i am just so upset bc i had all night ot claim down and rrelly think and i could care less if she is my friend or not… i ont do anything… but it is just tension in the air, i feel it… i just hope she doesnt do anything else stupid, and if she does i can control my self…. U GUYS have no idea i hav been walked on my whole life… ive been back stabbed so many times so i am all to “comfortable” with that feeling…. i dont feel like going through this again…
let me tell you this.. my friend of 20+ years and i moved in together… and it was the worse mistake ever… i was miserable… before and after living apart.. i couldnt ask for a better friend… some people just cant do it… it puts too much strain on the relationship…
You know,
This might be too drastic, but have you thought of moving out?
You staying with her is detrimental to you. Distancing yourself may be a good thing but that can happen only if you arent staying with her.
But then, this is the last case scenario…
R.A.M wrote:
You know,
This might be too drastic, but have you thought of moving out?
You staying with her is detrimental to you. Distancing yourself may be a good thing but that can happen only if you arent staying with her.
But then, this is the last case scenario…
i thought of it
riv-riv wrote:
R.A.M wrote:
You know,
This might be too drastic, but have you thought of moving out?
You staying with her is detrimental to you. Distancing yourself may be a good thing but that can happen only if you arent staying with her.
But then, this is the last case scenario…
i thought of it
Well tere r alot of things you have to take into account before you make a decesion…
First find a new apartment…
find someone who u think you can live with without any problems
Then how to tell your present housemate what you plan to do…
Lots of stuff!
Another small set of thoughts:
Have you looked at your actions towards your roomate?
Have they been in any way negative towards her and fueled her behaviour?
Are there any things you think you should have done differently from the beginning?
If there is a yes to the latter two have you tried to reconcile them with her?
Malori In Love ♥
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