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Well how can I start…

have any of you been in hole??I mean, when you get into to this I can’t do anything mode and you simply can’t get out because even you feel too sorry for your self? Well this is my case…I never had many (not to say any) friends or I did..just no the right kind.. I would even be popular for a while since Im quite good looking and then people would just go on bashing me..since Im little has been like this. i’ve moved through a few states and that didnt help either since whenever I made some true friends I eventualy left them behind. situation today is that Im 22 and go to an expensive uni full of brats…well of course not all of them them but big majority…I normaly manage to study 2 semesters before i feel so lonely and sad that I quit everything and go travelling normally for a year I’ve done so 3 times…and now you are probably thinking Im a brat myself..I do know Im lucky for being able to do all these trips but I also think i would change anything to have real friends…and if you r asking yourself I normally didnt do anything so people would start hating on me…it just comes naturally for other people to hate me…so now is the thing…Im getting married..to my best friend :) (not that i have many) but I feel very alone..he lives in another continent and we will only see each other in 2 months from now close to the wedding…Im suppose to have my girlfriend here to help but she also decided to leave me hanging…i really dont know what to do I feel REALLY alone and I know I keep overloading my fiance with my problems but he’s got his own..working a lot the poor man…so between planning a huge wedding and doing 8 subjects in a really hard college I really feel like Im loosing it I know it sounds like Im complaining for no good reason but trust me I suffering and dont know what to do to feel better…Im stress, depressed, started to gain a bit of weight I really feel like Im about to lose it….what i think i need help with is just to know if there are more people out there like me that would do anything for a friend and never leave them when they need your help and that listen i guess…i would do anything for a friend i dont understand why they wont do for me it’s not that i expect is just that i really need it now and there is no one…

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R.A.M offline Verified User (3 months) Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

You know, everyone, even people who have everything have problems…
When they learn to deal with them and once they have conqured them, they become much stronger and more experienced people…
the tougher the problems the more capable they become and are able to face even bigger ones.
If you keep shying away from your problems you will still be stuck on the same problems forever and will never find them easy…
Of course its always nice to get help from others, but only when you find your inner strength is it really worthwhile…
To do this one can try many things like prayer, meditation, retrospection etc…
Mainly view your problems as an oppurtunity to better yourself!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (28 minutes after post)

R.A.M wrote:
You know, everyone, even people who have everything have problems…
When they learn to deal with them and once they have conqured them, they become much stronger and more experienced people…
the tougher the problems the more capable they become and are able to face even bigger ones.
If you keep shying away from your problems you will still be stuck on the same problems forever and will never find them easy…
Of course its always nice to get help from others, but only when you find your inner strength is it really worthwhile…
To do this one can try many things like prayer, meditation, retrospection etc…
Mainly view your problems as an oppurtunity to better yourself!

Great Response!

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cahrodrigue offline Verified User (3 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Coming out of “anonymous” because I dont mean to sound weird but thats exactly the answer I was waiting for in a sense that I know nobody can take sort out my problems for me now thats why I feel so alone..im just weak I think because Im a very rational person therefore i know what im supposed to do i just cant get myseld to actually do it…thats why the hole….
but really thanks a lot for your answear..today is already lost since is 3 am here and i have class at 7 and an exam at 11 for which i didnt study at all cause then again Im a quitter…i had admiting this but what can i do..i guess is a step to be realizing the problem already…maybe from friday on i can do it differently :)

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robertconli offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (40 minutes after post)

I have felt the same way that you do. In my experience these feelings stem from deeper problems, problems that many people have. Whether they stem from psychological issues or from obligations that we have put off doing. You can dwell on these problems endlessly if you let yourself. You need to accept your shortcomings, as you are human, while at the same time embracing all of the wonderful things that make you who you are. And then take action. When you wake up in the morning say this prayer (to your respective religion)or just say it anyways as it feels good to do so.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Take a moral inventory and really figure out the things about your life that have been bothering you and make a list. Then take small steps, but make progress towards righting these situations. It’s really all you can do, one day at a time, one breath at a time. Hope this helps, it is slowly working for me :)

Best of wishes

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cahrodrigue offline Verified User (3 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (10 hours, 44 minutes after post)

Thanks a lot…really..today i’ve managed to go to class and do the exam and dont think it went that bad.. :) i was so scared of failing that i didnt even wanted to try..

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R.A.M offline Verified User (3 months) Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (13 hours after post)

Hey!
Congrats!
and all the best for the future…
BTW, you also must realise that we are social beigns and at times have to depend on others, its just figuring out a balance between not beeing too needy and independance…
Do try to take charge of the situation and yourself…
All the best again!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

All te best again :)

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