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I confessed my feelings to my long-term friend

He’s been flirting with me for ages, but I never felt the same. Then lately my attitude changed and I began to flirt back. Then last night we went out, but I couldn’t work up the courage to tell him how I felt, so I wound up texting him afterwards and said it to him. His reply said that he likes me, but he doesn’t think he’s ready to move to that level yet. I don’t know how to interpret that, can anyone help?

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Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 minute after post)

He doesn’t want a relationship with you. He wants to stay friends.

Anonymous #
3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

But then why flirt with me? Even his friends said he crushed on me.

Joey_PR 49 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
But then why flirt with me? Even his friends said he crushed on me.

Playin’ around, I guess.

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Sydney, 02, AU | 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

It depends what you mean when you say ‘flirting’.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (51 minutes after post)

Okay, seriously.. I’ve been the “guy’s best friend” type since ELEMENTARY SCHOOL.. if he says he’s not ready to move to that level, then it’s because you caught him off guard and he needs to figure out how serious his feelings for you are.. “friends who flirt” is fun, but a “girlfriend” is intimidating… Let him mull it over, and tell him you’d be fine being “friends who flirt” if he decides he doesn’t want “that kind of relationship”

You just scared him, he’ll be fine.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (7 hours, 17 minutes after post)

If it doesn’t work out, he’s not only lost a girlfriend, but he has also lost a FRIEND. That’s the problem with “friend ripening into girlfriend/boyfriend” situations. The other thing is that you KNOW each other so well . . . TOO well. There’s little mystery about another person to be unraveled. Everybody wants to feel that he or she is a little mysterious . . . but if you’ve been friends since elementary school, all of the wrappings are long gone. It can still WORK, but it can be more difficult!

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (9 hours, 38 minutes after post)

I think there’s really no other meaning to that. If he said he doesn’t want to move to the next level yet, then I think that’s what he meant. There’s nothing to “interpret.”

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