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is it possible to trust again once you’ve been hurt?

i mean really trust-with all of your heart?

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (7 minutes after post)

yes

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Sydney, 02, AU | 3 months ago (25 minutes after post)

sometimes.

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Sydney, 02, AU | 3 months ago (26 minutes after post)

it depends what you mean by hurt.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (38 minutes after post)

Well, it depends. If the person you are involved with now is worthy of trust. Trust is earned. I have a lot of adjustments when it comes to trust other people. But when we feel that they are worthy of it, why not?

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (42 minutes after post)

i mean hurt in love-when u have trusted someone and given your heart to them and they hurt you by cheating on you and lying to you and being a totally different person from who u thought they were-can u ever have that trust in your heart where u can completely and totally open yourself up to being hurt again? wont you always have a part of u that will want to hold back?

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (46 minutes after post)

There should always be a part of you that you would want to hurt back. It is true that to be inlove means the risk of getting hurt. But you know what, when it is love, a certain part of your life you would like to share with the person and you would not think if you are becoming more and more vulnerable when you are in the middle of loving emotions.

It is a challenge then how you would like to arm or protect yourself from getting hurt after you have trusted too much of your heart to that someone.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (50 minutes after post)

ever since i was cheated on and treated badly by a very jealous boyfriend, i now have trust issues and am a jealous person which i hate. all of my life i was never jealous and then after i was with a jealous person i became that. i hate it and i hate not being able to completely trust my boyfriend

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

yes. It takes time though, and the right person/people - for me, i’m almost there - still have a sliver of doubt in me, but its better :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (4 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Pisces, that is understandable and i hope you don’t hate yourself for that. The thing is you don’t have to hurry up and force yourself to believe other people. If people are true and sincere and you are in the same page as feelings are concerned, i’m sure you’d get to trust again.

Just try to be on your toes as you never know what lies ahead, just enough for you to protect yourself. I have the tendency to over protect myself and that is bad in some ways.

Try to remember that not all people go and hurt you. There are some nice ones out there. Still.

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