Family help: would u forgive your dad if he was hiding the fact that he had you as his child? - Help.com

Of course it’s wrong. Your basically saying that your dad is abandoning his children just to be with some woman he meet, ditching one family to be with another.

Not only does that not sound right, but have you thought that if he starts another family then he may abandon them one day, or maybe the marriage just won’t work at all.

Honestly, only you can decide if you should forgive him or not.

Personally I still thinks it’s wrong, you just don’t abandon your family, the people you care about and the closest to.

Obviously this must be very hard for you, and I don’t want this to come out wrong, but imagine what your dad is feeling. Have you ever loved someone? Because he must be feeling so torn between his two families. He loves you, but he loves this new woman as well.
My mum was for a while dating this guy who I hated, and whilst it’s not the same thing, I know that my mum didn’t really care what I thought. She just loved this man so much that she would have done anything if it meant that she could be with him.
I guess all that I’m saying is that it must be very hard for your dad as well as you. Maybe you should talk to him about it.
The other thing, of course, is that your dad’s partner probably wont be happy if she ever finds out that he lied to her.
Hope things work out for you. :)

i would, given i’m of matured age and not a minor in which he no longer have the legal responsibility and i can stand on my own two feet.
think of it like this, would i not want my dad to be happy? therefore, if he is happy, would i not be happy as well?

I think your father is suffering from a midlife crisis.

If I were you I would go mad at him .. sorry i’m not a saint .

I could not deny my son in order to marry someone. Your father still has not learned what is important in life. He will eventually be found out, and he will be hounded out of that family.

Wrong oh so wrong, his kids come first and foremost or should do !

It is not fair for him to hide you and your brothers from anyone. It is good that you are trying to reach out to him. But for you to meet his wife’s family and pretend that you are not his direct family, No.

well, he is gonna do what he is gonna do, maybe just wait and he’ll come around.

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