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Hi,

Need advice and help to understand this girl.

I know this girl for quit a while now. She is my sister’s best friend and has a boyfriend. At first she was an ordinary girl to me or just one of my sister’s friends. But every time we meet I feel that we are getting closer and closer. I moved into a flat with my sister not so long ago. One time she was there (with her boyfriend of course).
Anyway…that night it was like fire between us. She was always around me, staring at me, flirting with me and laughed at almost every joke I said even the ones that were not all that funny. I noticed her licking her lips a few times when she was speaking to me alone with very long deep eye contact. So from these signs I think she must like me.
Another day she was there to see my sister, her boyfriend came to pick her up. When he arrived she was hugging and kissing him all the time in front of me with a big smirk on her face.
2 days ago I had a big party at my flat and again the same like mentioned above. Always close around me and flirting with me. I think her boyfriend started to notice that there was something going on and I heard them arguing a few times. I’m not to sure if it was about me could have been paranoia but unlikely because she kept a distance from me after that. But then the most weirdest thing happened! One of her work colleges came and she was all around him, a bit like me but in a playful friendly joking way. I could tell.
I think after he arrived or when she was arguing with her boyfriend (happened all in about the same time) she didn’t speak to me or even look at me once. When they left she didn’t even say bye to me but gave everybody else a hug.
I don’t understand her anymore I’m really confused!
I need to know what’s going on in that girls head. Is that just her nature around other guys? Or is she bored with her boyfriend? I really like her and it would be a dream come true to get her in my arms.

Hope you get a slight idea of what I’m talking about.
Any help would be great.

Cheers

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Bex offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (13 minutes after post)

This is a very confusing situation to be in. It does sound like this girl is a natural flirt so I would be careful how you take it. It also sounds like she does like you but that could possibly be the attention she gets. Sometimes a girl (particularly in a relationship) will feel safe to flirt with other guys as nothing will come of it, but this is really unfair of her to do. I think the only way you are going to know what is going on is to be blunt and ask her. To save any embarrassment on your part I would perhaps try something like “You flirt a lot with me, are you trying to tell me something?” Then it will be up to her how she responds. If she says “no, don’t be silly, I have a boyfriend” then you could reply with “then perhaps you could stop flirting with me so much, it must really annoy him”. or if she replies with “yes, I like you” you can reply with “I like you too but you have a boyfriend so please stop flirting with me until you’re single”. Don’t encourage her to cheat on her boyfriend (because if she finds it easy to cheat on him….well, no one is safe). Good luck to you.

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nicolascage offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

Hey Bex,
Thanks for your advice. That sounds like the best way, just to ask her.
Gave me some strengh.
cheers

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