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I think you should just communicate this too her. Tell her your feelings and if she is as great as you feel she is, she will understand.

aww, tell her how you feel hon, teachers are honored to think a pupil connects with them, it makes their hard work worth it. Be careful with the mum thing though just let her know your admiration and respect x

Sasha is correct! Teachers are VERY honored when they have earned the love and respect from their pupils.
I had a boss from a job I worked for years ago. She taught me so much and it changed me.
A few years later I went to her work (a local department store) and wrote on the back of my business card :”You made a difference in my life” and just left it there for her.

Wonderful idea kima, teachers can become mentors, Im British and had some wonderful teachers that made an influence in my life. :-)

It’s very common for an adolescent-age student to latch on to a teacher as a role model, mentor, or even idol.

If you tell her you love her more than your mum and you want to be her daughter, though, she might get uncomfortable.

If I were you, I would just write her a note and tell her that you like and admire her, and that you are grateful that you had the opportunity to learn from her. You might even tell her you feel very comfortable talking to her and ask whether she would mind your getting in touch with her from time to time when you need advice about your education or about growing up.

My ninth-grade English teacher was such a figure in my life. She stayed at my school only two years, then, to my disappointment, went to graduate school for a doctorate and moved on to teach at a university hundreds of miles away. We stayed in touch over the years, though. Today, I am almost 62 and she is 70, and we remain very close friends—in daily e-mail contact. She STILL gives me advice and support. The nice part now is that I can give HER advice and support as well!

I agree with Sasha, don’t tell her the part about your mom because she [Your mom] may get very disappointed. However, it is a good idea to tell her how much she means to you, teachers are constantly putting up with bad kids, for one to say what you have would make a job like hers worthwhile. Good luck =)

Honestly:
I don’t see a problem with expressing your feelings toward her.
Most teachers are very understanding.
If you choose to tell her that you wish she was your mum… it might hurt your own mum’s feelings.
Just consider those consequences.

I think we all agree here that expressing your liking for her and your gratitude toward her is very appropriate and will be welcome. Just skip the mum part. That might make her feel very awkward. Ask her to be your mentor.

That will make her very happy.

Just make it honest and from your heart hon, leave out the mum part,make a list of the top ten things that make you feel about her they way you do, i.e patience,attitude ,your respect for her etc..then just put it in your own words, if she knows you, she’ll know it came from the heart which is worth millions :-)

Dear (Insert name)
I just wanted to take the time to write you a thank you letter…

You have made such an impact on my life. You have touched my life in such away that it has made me feel a great admiration for you.
I will never forget you and never want to!

Because I feel so comfortable talking to you and respect you so much, I was wondering if you could be a mentor in my life.
I would love to be able to talk with you when I need some advice or guidance.

(Honestly, just write from your heart) but this is just an idea…)

Exactly, Kima.

Why thank you theresape! :O)

Yes, it IS another story. Don’t drag your teacher into it.

I can understand your reasoning for resenting your mother.
And of course that is something you CAN discuss with your teacher… another time.
First you need to focus on opening up to your teacher in a gentle way… where as NOT to overwhelm her. Imagine if the roles where reversed… best way to handle any situation.

Once you have let her in on your feelings… finding out if she will accept being your mentor.. then little by little you can open up to her.

Relationships need time to grow and bonds will be made tighter that way.
You will build a trust with her and the same will happen for her.

As for the Mom issue.. I know you can post your story in another “Post” but remember (I am a mother) that MOMS have valid reasons for the decisions they make. Well, MOST mothers anyway… but again, I don’t know your story.
Maybe you can vent in another post and we can take a stab at that one too.

HUGS: Kima

Lovely letter kima, Id have written much the same :-)

it seems like you have grown close to this teacher. i would think greatly about how you will go about talking to your teacher. im sure whatever you do will be right for you, but i would seriously think about talking to your mum and telling her how you feel she might be more understanding than you think