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I’m thinking seriously about getting a divorce.

Communication between my husband and I has completely broken down. We have a toddler and I’m concerned about the potential custody situation because we would probably end up living about 300 miles apart. My husband is a good father and I do want to share custody with him. I love my daughter and want what’s best for her, but I really feel hopeless about our marriage. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I’m just looking for some hope or inspiration out there. Thanks.

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iwana offline Verified User (3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Why does the marriage seem hopeless? Have you tried counseling? Have you tried talking to him about it? As someone who’s been married 20+ years, I can tell you it requires lots of effort and work on BOTH parties’ parts. Why do you think divorce is your only option?

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

My parents got divorced when I was 2, I lived with my mom for awhile but eventually moved in with my grandparents because of some issues. Is divorce what seems to be the only option? What about a marrege counsler? Maybe regaining what love you have for each or had for eachother will strengthen the marrege, don’t consider divorce until everything seems to be hopless.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

Having a toddler will be difficult, but you should try and get a babysitter or something and go out with him, try to almost get to know him again… Obviously if its not working, its not working, but for the kid make a final effort, try conselling like the other posters suggest?

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Kima offline Verified User (8 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

Best advice I heard about divorce…

Divorce is an option if:
You have tried EVERY angle and option to make it work. IF you can walk away from the marriage without feeling anger or any other emotion.There should be closure there.
(This is not reference to spousle abuse, any other dangerous situation or adultery)

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Gilbert, AZ, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Please jsut try to stick it out! It jsut sounds like the classic symptoms of having a toddler….no time to be all mushy. And believe me, I know….I have a 2 year old sister and an 8 month sister.
The situation you’re in is frusterating and heart-breaking, but I personally do NOT think it’s a reason to get divorced. Do you have any idea what divorce does to kids? no matter how old! I’ve seen SOOOOOO many kids and even some adults get messed up cause their parents got divorced. It hurts them so bad! even if the kid is a toddler when the divorce happens.
I have yet to meet a person from a broken home that didn’t struggle with it.

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Greenock, V4, GB | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (13 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Im in the same situation now too I have a 5 year old , but im sticking it out as long as he is so young as I know I would not get custody , well not in scotland , My other kids live 206 miles away I drive to see them every 3 weeks , I dont want to miss out in their lives either , its a nice drive tho long but its worth it to see them you hubby may have to do same …

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