life help: i just found out recently that i have a different biological father than who i believed. - Help.com

Cali87, it’s funny that you mentioned how genetics do not matter. I have experienced this identical situation. I found out about my separate paternity at the age of 32. The reason my mother had to tell me is because my biological father has a genetic disease. Can you imagine what it’s like to be told “you’re Dad isn’t really you’re dad” and then, “you have a 50% chance of having the disease, which is killing your real dad.” The genetics, as it turns out, are vitally important in my case!
Alexis, I know all about the confusion, it follows me around every day. I am trying to be strong for my children and talking to a therapist has helped a great deal. There are certain things, like the past, that we cannot change. The decision to not tell you the truth about your biological father was probably agonized over when it was made. My mother has carried the guilt all my life. My father (who raised me) made a hard choice, adopting me as his own. He knew there was another man. Funny thing, we all graduated from the same high-school. I had a half sister and brother who graduated a few years before I began. We all walked the same hallways, connected yet separate. I still have not met that other family. The people I most resemble are strangers, still. Good luck making the connection with your new family, I hope things turn out for the best!