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Ja, put some more back into the two friends you have, they obviously like something about you! Its sounds like you have, not low confidence, but something like that related to your brothers… I’d say just go out there and try talking to more of your aquantainces. Spend lucnhes or breaks in a different place each day, and gradually start going back to the places where you get along best with the people there, you sound like a nice enough person, one of those groups will absorb you. I was the same, had no proper friends, but then all the rejects formed together and now I’m their group - and loving it!, we actually rose up the social ranks with each others help, its just getting in thats the trouble, just be friendly but a little persistant and you won’t have any problems, good luck!

Only a few words, it sound to me like some of your friends want to know you for your talent, and what you can give them ,oh yes I know him (namedrop) that kind of thing.
Try to find friends that want you for who you are on an emotional level,the kind person you are etc.. you sound lonely to me, its sad when you have so many friends but still feel lonely make some nicer friends that dont desert you.

Durring your early school years people will follow the “polpular” kid in hopes of finding somone to play with them and by obtaining that “popukar” kid they get more people. As you grow up, people learned that there really isn’t a thing as “popula” people know you for somthing and thats “pipularity” and they go into their own little “groups” there where i am now in my life :D Now that your in college, I first of all say good job and good luck with your music, You have 500+ plus people who notice you and 5 friends who apparently dont want anything to do with you. Its your choice but I say foregt the 5 and get 5 more. Find somone who you have somthing in comon with, like your music, find somone who is good and loves it too, play witht hem for awhile, give eachother tips. As soon as somone find somthing in common with you go with it, invite them to a concert or out to a bar where they’re playing their favorite music, or even just going out somwhere in general, liek shopping for a special girl, get a second opinion. For the girl thing, first dont judge a girl by her looks, looks dont matter, or shoudn’t matter. Find a girl you like and just try bonding with her at college, if she seems to click with you check to see if she is singel and then ask her out to a place where you both can communicate and have fun and a tipp us girl love to talk about ourselfs lol atleast i do :D hope this helped good luck

Thanks guys. All good advice. Just to say though, I am a girl, and am not looking to go out with a girl any time soon. Personally, I tend to go for guys! ;o)

About me being friends with two of my friends just cus I want friends, that sounds really callous. What I meant is, they really like me as a person, and are so nice to me, so I didn’t have the heart not to be friends with them. After a while, I realised that all they did was immensely get on my nerves and I felt like going crazy when I was around them as they almost ‘worshipped’ me, but I felt that for once in my life, I had good friends, and my family kept telling me that I should stay friends with them because they were nice, kind, genuine, honest, etc. And I didn’t have the heart to be mean to them, so I ended up being ‘best’ friends with them when they annoy the hell out of me. And I also thought, well, if I don’t have these two as friends, I don’t have anyone, so I might as well stick it out.

And I have put so much effort into my million acquaintances. I facebook them, I suggest we go out, meet for lunch etc. And a lot of the time we do, but then they never invite me to events they have, or parties, or nights out. I am always the one doing the asking, and after a while, that just sucks and I just have to stop. Persistent is one thing, but after a while you have to know when to give up.

I just don’t know what to do. I know that a lot of people do like me. I try so hard to be likeable, sometimes I admit wrongly, by going along with people’s opinions and ideas when I don’t agree with them. But this has led to me having a wide range of acquaintances cus I try my best to fit in with whoever I am with at the time. So I know for a fact none of them hate me, and they do enjoy hanging out with me when I meet up with them, but it’s never enough for them to actually want to be proper friends, you know?

Maybe I am destined to be this standard nice person who people talk to ‘in the street’ and then forget about the second I am gone….

Good advice. But the thing is,,,I didn’t set out to be popular. I just eventually reached a stage where I was so shy that I just had to do something about it, or else stay wholed up in my room all day talking to no one. And that did mean me being fake, because the true me is shy and wouldn’t talk to anyone. So I do have to be fake to some degree all the time by pretending I am not shy and that I am outgoing. If you get me!
But yeah, I really get what you are saying.