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My X isn’t the man I love anymore but still i feel horrible

He use to be the most wonderful man in the world, him and I got along so well, then we broke up, i broke his heart and he broke mine, we slowly drifted apart, well today after my friend tried to finally talk to him after a mounth or so of no communicating. She called him and said “Hey whats up?” and eh replied “Leave me the F alone” and then hung up.

I finally called him and I asked “Hey my friend called you and you just blew her off” and he said ” Look i got some **** thats needs to be done”
“Ok I just wanted to see if you were ok”
“Why?” he asked
“Because I still worry about you”
“Ok” and he hung up on me.

When we broke up I was crushed, I felt like nothing mattered and I went into a state of low self confidence and depression because he was the first man who said he loved me and we had a future, or so i thought. Now after this Im wondering how and why i fell in love with him and what happen to the man I use to love. Now instead of hurting, I just feel kinda numb.
this is just a rant..I needed to just let it out

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Michael Leibman offline Verified User (10 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 45 #
Littleton, CO, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

That’s how I feel — so numb. Not that I don’t get hurt by people anymore, just that it’s overwhelming, all-the-time pain, so I don’t even really notice it as “pain” and just notice that somethings people do cause further emotional/psychic damage, or I’ll suddenly collapse into tears or something, but I don’t particularly have any ‘feeling’ about it all. All I know is that fresh air and water and exercise are good for healing and health. And healthy relationships might be good too.

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loves_sillyhe offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 5 days after post)

Hello–I was touched by your piece. Nearly a year ago, I met someone who totally turns me on after a 7 year relationship with someone “safe”: not particularly attractive or a big turn-on but would never hurt me and very intelligent, let me have my space. This new relationship is so incredible but I still can’t help feeling pain and sorrow for my ex who never experienced a broken heart. I tried to let him down slowly (we had already begun to grow apart), but as you know, it doesn’t matter. I feel very protective of hime and wish I could have felt this way for him. Does this make any sense to anyone?

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