Wicca help: So I know I havent been on for a while, and all but I need some help.

anneliesehuss

Tiffin, OH, US

So I know I havent been on for a while, and all but I need some help.

Im losing interest in my boyfriend of like 2 or 3 months, not only because he lives an hour away, but also we have different wants out of life, like I want to get married one day and he doesnt. which is fine but its not the only thing thats different about us. Ive tried to break it off nicely, but he wont let go. today he called me like 5 times in three hours, its not like I didnt answer or anything, I did and we discussed it for the past like 3 days but he wont let go, what should I do.

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Cali87 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

it may be hard but you might need to get rude with him and tell him exactly why you don’t want to be with him anymore, or you could just ignore him completely

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Tiffin, OH, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

well I was talking about like that things were too overwhelming right now cause I got school and what not and maybe we shouldnt see each other right now, and hes like dont worry itll be fine, then he started talking like well you just need a massage and trying to talk dirty over the phone and whatnot, pretty much ignoring everything I said

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anneliesehuss 2 #
Tiffin, OH, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

well I was sugar coating it a bit I suppose

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Tiffin, OH, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

a few reasons, his brothers wife is my best friend, and I dont want to ruin that, and I really like him, hes a great guy I dont want to hurt his feeling, I just dont think that things are going to go where I want them to and whatnot

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Tiffin, OH, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

I dunno its just the way I am Im a people pleaser, so If I hurt some one I feel bad and it hurts me too

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anneliesehuss 2 #
Tiffin, OH, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

not really, but Ive been that way all my life

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Tiffin, OH, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

I know im working on getting a phsycologist for it

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Tiffin, OH, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

See but I did that too, I didnt nessisarily say I want to break up, but I said stuff like the fact that we dont share wants and goals and stuff bothers me, and of course hes like well Im not getting married, I dont even want to think about that now, cause he just wants to live in the here and now and not think about what the consequenses good or bad might be in the future. which is fine, but I dont want to waste five years of my time on a guy who doesnt want anything more from me than Im already giving him

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Waltham, MA, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (17 hours, 47 minutes after post)

Next time he calls, you tell him, “I’m sorry, but this relationship simply isn’t working out for me.”

Period. DON’T TRY TO EXPLAIN WHY. Explaining why will give him things to argue with or try to talk his way around.

Just keep repeating the same thing: “This is not working out for me.”

You should finish the conversation by saying, “I wish you good luck, but please do not call me again. There is no point in our continuing to talk.” Then, bam, hang up and don’t answer the phone when he calls back. Get caller ID if you can.

By talking to him each time he calls, you are encouraging him and giving him hope.

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2 months, 1 week ago (2 weeks, 3 days after post)

Tell him that he a great person, but not the person for you because you have separate life goals.

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